Hi everyone - my apologies if this is long-winded...please bear with me.
I met a guy late July through work (I was a contractor his workplace). He asked me to go to drinks with him for my last day. He also asked me out to lunch before I left his work, and wanted to walk me to the station a couple of times....very keen. We got along so well that I ended up staying at his place for 3 nights (yes, we were physical on one of these nights).
I'm 28, he's 33.
We've spoken a few times on the phone since then, usually for around an hour at a time. We've also been out for drinks once since then. He was doing most of the contact to begin with, then I thought it was about time I reciprocated. We're not a couple or even dating really. He was very honest with me in the beginning that the timing's not right and that he's still not completely over his ex. I was fine with that and I respect that. All along, it's felt like a really nice friendship.
He's a very open, honest person who has complimented me a lot eg: "I really like you", "I feel really comfortable with you", "I can communicate so well with you", "You're cute", "You're refreshing...not a high-maintenance princess like other girls I've been with", "I'm not here to mess around with you" (he knows I've had some pretty bad experiences in the past).....I'm sure you get the idea. He's quite sincere - a real no bullsh!t guy who shoots from the hip.
However, the communication, on his part, seems to be dwindling. I'm not the kind of person to constantly bug someone with text messages and phone calls. We've probably spoken and texted every one to two weeks.
2 weeks ago I called him but he was out with friends having a beer and I didn't want to disturb him. He was quite happy to hear from me and I told him I'd call back some other time and he said he'd call me the next day. He didn't.
I haven't heard anything from him since then. The weird thing is, whenever I have sent him a text message or called him, he's always replied or answered straight away, so it's not as if he's ignoring me.
I'm really, really confused now. One of the girls I used to work with, who is also good friends with him, told me not to mess with him because in her words, "he's fragile"....but I feel like maybe I'm the one being messed with now?
I just don't get it - how can you be so keen on someone, compliment them so much, tell them you feel so comfortable around them...and then not call back? He's quite conscious of how he treats people e.g. do unto others and I've never heard him say a bad word about anyone or seen him moody. One of friends described him as "a tart with a heart" (I'm sure he's dating...no big deal).
Am I wrong to feel p!ssed that he hasn't returned my call? I'm not sure it would be a good idea to call him again....I left the ball in his court and he hasn't hit it back, which I find very strange considering everything he's ever said to me and that everyone who knows him says he's a lovely guy, who they have a lot of time for.
What's your take on this? Am I the only one who thinks it's pretty rude, or am I jumping the gun? We are friends (or so I thought).
Thank you