cmacey

On the one hand, she may be trying to be friends because she fears losing you altogether after all that NC time. On the other hand, it sounds like she may want to try to get you back. Probably a decent idea to have her come visit you and see what happens, if she just wants to be friends and you can't deal with that then maybe you should move on, but who knows, inviting you to play a game with her and offereing to help with your paper sound liek things she would do to get a chance to get to see you to try to get you back. Chris

I agree, if he actually does still love you as you said, he will realize when you stop calling etc that he misses you and really loves you. If you do NC and he doesn't realize that, then it probably wasn't meant to be anyway. If he does contact you, don't pressure him to make a decision, or tell him you love him so much etc, that will likely just push him further away. Chris

It's true, you don't know she'll come back, and you can't keep telling yourself she will. That hope that she will come back is probably what's getting you through the day right now and that's not healthy. You have to be able to know that you can make it on your own and you don't need her to be happy. Then if she does decide to come back you can deal with whether or not you want her to then, but until then, you can't keep assuming she will. Chris

I agree with day walker, if she was looking for a relationship she def. would have remembered to mark her calendar and showed up, but that doesn't mean much, she may not be looking now, but maybe you two will become friends and that may turn into more. Even if you find out she has a bf now, that can change. I'm not saying try to break her up with her boyfriend, but if you find out she does have one or that she isn't interested right now in having a bf, you can still keep her their as a friend for now, and maybe you'll become a bf option later on...you're gonna be at school with the girl for a while. Just look good for lunch, and I agree that you shouldn't pay for her right now, cause that might be too forward. Chris

First time posting, and I'm sorry but this is gonna be a long one cause I want to get some solid advice. My ex gf dumped me a month ago today. We had been going out for 2 years and lived together for the four months prior to our breakup. I moved to law school in NYC and she's still back at her seenior year in college in Trenton. She came up to visit me after my second week here and told me she needed to take a break. She later sent me a letter that said she thought we would get married one day but that I was just not the right guy for her in the long run. I kept trying to convince her that she was doing the wrong thing for the first few weeks. Then last week I sent her an email saying that I needed a break too and I thought she was making the right decision and that we should try to stay friends if she wants. I really don't feel this way, I want her back, but I feel that continuing to tell her that will a) let her know that I'm always there as a back up plan and b) push her further away and make her focus on my negatives when she's trying to figure this out. We had pretty much a perfect relationship and never fought. We got along very well and were completely happy at all times together. Now, I've seen her a couple times since she dumped me, once I begged and pleaded for her to come back about two weeks after, and then last weekend I happenned to be going to the same concert as her. I'm pretty sure she's at least kind of seeing a new guy, who I also think is just as good or better a guy than I am. I'll be seeing her again next weekend, I don't know what I should do, I think I'm just going to look very happy and upbeat and try to be calm and happy when I talk to her. I also think it's probably best for me to only talk to her for a little while then end the conversation and go hang out with my other friends (I'm gonna see her at my homecoming for college football game). I've also gotten a nice tan and been running since she broke up with me, so I look much better than when she first did it. Is there anyone that can give me any advice about what I should do?