Brenno69

Hmmm Yeah I was just kiddin about the monk thing Also on accents... Its good to hear that an American girl thinks that Aussie accents are hot That is a major ego boost, hey maybe we should all go to the states for a holiday to test this out? Its true that accents make a person more attractive thats for sure In response to the must love someone to have sex, etc... From my limited knowledge of actual sex, I would have to agree that love helps a lot in the whole procedure. But love is not a must for everyone. Anyhow, im off to practice my accent now so cheers all

That is so sweet in a way, even though things aren't quite perfect just yet I hope everything goes really well! I really do wish you two the best and I hope that your love for each other and your families keeps you together (man, am I all metrosexual or what!?!?) in the long run I trust the next 6 months should be difficult and very different, but since you both seem to love each other, everything will be fine Cheers and good luck!

This may be really bad advice, but this is the way the mind of a naive 18 year old male thinks... Your husband must have been pretty terrible (or just worked his a*s*s off at med school for his family) for you to fall in love with another man you spent more time with Family comes first, and you should fight for yours. If you still have feelings for your husband, do all you can to build a strong family with him. He has chosen a pretty strenuous career move, which may be difficult for the both of you. If you don't love him anymore (which would utterly suck considering that half of him is in your daughter), then do what most of the population does these days... divorce... Disregard the 7 years you have speant together (which was never meant to be easy), and don't work on your relationship with your husband. There ya go... Hopefully this might help.?.? If not then please disregard

mmmm... I dunno I think I'll just keep going the way I am now otherwise I'd be going back on how I've always felt, and I reckon I'd regret it and feel jipped. This isn't really a major problem of mine, and I know a lot of people wouldn't even call this a problem. Anyhow, I'm sure that things will be fine with it all. I just thought this board would be good to tell some people how I feel I'm sure there are plenty of nice, good looking, smart, and "moral" (HAHA! whatever that means!?!?) girls that think the same way as I do In the mean time, I think I'm gonna be a monk...

Well... Shucks... hehe I may been over-exaggerating! Its not EVERY week, but its way more than my mates get. I reckon its coz I don't dance as much as them, and the girls get turned off by their 'moves'! But seriously, often I'd be talking to a person I know (male or female) and there would be a girl walk up in a semi-drunken confidence boost and ask to dance. Most of the time its a 'no' from me but then we'll get chatting and she'll be a nice person and pretty decent, then at about 2AM she'll say something seedy and I'd have to say something like 'ummmm... gotta drive my mates home'... or something like that. Anyhow, I reckon that at least 25-30% of the girls at the clubs down here in Australia aren't looking for a casual fling or even a guy at that. Those girls just come to dance I guess

I trust this isn't like a wedding ring eh? No questions will be asked right? Coz that would be... I guess kinds crazy in my opinion Yeah gifts are good, try not to go overboard though coz she'll think you are obsessed and stuff... $1000 ring? to me... Thats what I'd get my girlfriend after 3 years and were both at least 18. Anyhow, there is no serious harm in giving a ring this early Except the whole wallet shrinkage thing

I'm very happy to hear that you still have hope, and that you are going to take things slowly and think things out I am sorry for being kinda blunt in my post, I just feel that no one is perfect and everone will crack at stages in their life. Also, parents smack their kids all the time and if this is not something you like, tell your husband not to touch your son, even when disciplining. Depending on the seriousness of situations, as in the seriousness of the abuse I hope that things work out for all of you If your husband loves you he will do all he can to keep you and your family together since he admitted his mistake. And if you love your husband (sounds to me like you do), you will try and help him, although I agree that the kids come first (though they may not be old enough to know the seriousness of the situation, and may be threatened by your husband purely because he is not his father). I think that you should let your son know that you love your husband a lot, but your son will always come first. I hope I haven't caused you too many mixed feelings

Ok well I'm only 18 so my view probably isn't worth as much as others but... I understand what is happening, but perhaps forgiveness is the answer... Is your husband truly a violent man? Perhaps instead of you and the entire family going through a huge divorce (again), your husband (the sole offender and hte one with the illness) should go to anger management/therapy and the family should help him and try really really really hard to forgive him. This man has something not wuite right with him, which should be treated just like any illness (broken leg, depression, etc...) as long as its not dangerous. Your son and husband could do more bonding maybe, if they didn't at first? If this is the first time he has been violent (I assume we're not just talking about a "you've been a naughty boy *smack* go to your room"), then perhaps he deserves forgiveness??? I don't know the man so Is family about love and forgiveness and sticking together in times of crisis or should one incident (if it were only 1) be disected and analysed by a shrink so he/she can advise you to tear the family in two? I dunno if this is good advice, but I just think that maybe working together for a solution is better that splitting and running from the problem (depending on how serious the problem is).

Its good to get everyones thoughts on this I thought I'd put this thread here coz I was just wondering if there were others who just can't 'do it' like I can't! I guess if I really wanted to have a one nighter (which I don't) I would just have to... you know... !!!!!!! KIDDING! Thanks for the replies everyone! Makes me feel even more obliged to keep passing them off!

Ok well this is gonna sound strange... probably, i dunno I have recently started doing the whole "clubbing" thing with my mates usually once a week. I don't particularly like dance music (I'm more into rock) but I go anyway for something to do. This is the problem... Every time I go there I talk to a number of girls and usually there is 1 that tries to get me to go to her place or my place or out the back or whatever..! As in for sex! And sexual stuff and the like..! Now, don't get me wrong, I love it how there are decent looking girls trying to get with me, it does wonders for my ego, and I am an exceptionally horny guy (just ask my hand - was that uncalled for!?!?)! I find fantasizing about different partners every week really cool... but thats all, just fantasizing... I HATE the idea of casual sex in reality and once a girl makes it clear to me that she wants it... her face sorta turns average looking and her voice starts sounding kinda croaky and... Yeah it turns me off! And I have to bar her until she gets drunk enough to hit on one of my mates (hehe, no their not that bad!). I've only ever done sexual stuff with one girl who I was with for 3.5 years, and even then we didn't do anything sexual for 6 months, and sex at 1 year. Does anyone think there is a chance of this kind of relationship happening to me again? And if so HOW!?!?!? Its really worrying me! Is it mainly all casual sex first relationship later when you get over the age of 18? Does everyone here have casual sex? Thanks heaps everyone! At my age, I probably should be out there banging everyone I can ;-p