Kristen74

Your husband is only staying because of the child you share. Don't settle because you think it's the right thing to do. Maybe things will work with this guy maybe not but I strongly believe in following your heart (if I had I wouldn't be where I am today). You've given up everything for your husband. What is he offering you?

Thanks Brenno, you were helpful and I didn't feel like you were too blunt.

Brenno, In my opinion he's not a violent person. He's generally very calm and patient. My understanding is that it was a one time incident, which my husband admitted was wrong. However I'm getting different information from different sources and am really not sure what to believe anymore. If it truly is a one time thing then I could say he just lost it (we were going through a huge amount of stress at the time), but with what I'm hearing I really don't know. Well writing this has me thinking I need to sit down with my son and ask him what really happens when my husband disiplines him. Then I know for sure and will proceed accordingly.

Hello, I'm new here. I've been married to my 2nd husband for 4 years, together for 7. My first marriage was a young stupid thing to an abusive, cheater. However I have a son from that marriage (got pregnant right away), and now a daughter from this marriage. Now 30 with two kids I seem forced into another divorce. My husband has abused my son and now the authorities are involved. We are all seeing therapists but one told me he has a high liklihood of repeating the physical abuse and recommends I divorce him. If I don't and he does abuse him again my kids will be removed I was told. To me he's a very loving, calm, patient person. But to my son he's a nit-picker. I know I need to divorce him, but I really don't want to. We have a beautiful home and being a single parent to two kids is just nothing I ever wanted in life. Yes I'm whinning. But I can't do things as a single parent that I can do as a married one (like run to the store alone after the kids are in bed). I'm really struggling over what is supposed to be a simple decision (from what others are telling me). The thought of another divorce is just awful.