alissa

I don't think there's any problem in asking out a girl who's older than you. In 9th grade, my friend asked out a girl who was in 11th grade, and they had a great relationship for over a year...they decided to end it though because they both knew she was going to be going to college miles away and they didn't want to be held down. I thought it was a smart move. They're still very very close friends, though. But I'd say go for it...the worst she can say is no, and even if she does, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

I'd say to just wait for a moment that feels special/romantic. And maybe instead of just going in for a kiss, ask her softly "can I kiss you?"...it'll show her that you respect her opinion/wishes. As for kissing her in front of her friend, I don't think that would be a very good idea, as that may make her friend feel like a third wheel and could make things awkward for you guys. I'm sure you wouldn't be too thrilled if you were with two friends that were dating and they started kissing in front of you. I also agree with 69_king and mysteryman. Good luck with this girl; you can do it!

How 'bout ice skating? And then afterwards cuddling up under a blanket by a fireplace with hot cocoa.

I agree with PAdreamer.

Hmm...I guess I would prefer a shy guy, or a mix of the two you mentioned. I wouldn't want him too outgoing and crazy in fear that he would cheat on me or try to push me into doing things I'm not ready for...but not too shy that he would be too nervous to kiss me or something.

Check this site out, I just found it. It's neat, it has all the states in the USA listed with their ages of consent, and other countries with their ages of consent. link removed Hope that helps.

That's exactly how I feel about it. I'm going to be 16 in a few months and I still haven't kissed anyone (or had a boyfriend). But I guess I'd rather wait and have my firsts with someone really special than just some random person.

That's kind of what I was thinking too...I think anything over 19 is out of the question (until I turn 16) but, my birthday is in a few months so until then, if he IS over 19, we could establish a friendship, right? It's not illegal for that I hope...

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Thank you both for your help...I'll try whichever feels right. Any other advice is still appreciated.

The reason I'm asking guys in this age range is because I have my eye on this one guy and I have no idea how old he is. Ok, say you were at the grocery store, or at church...how would you most like to be approached by a girl (and would you be bothered if you were approached there?)? What would you want them to say to you? And do you think just having her walk up to you and be like, "Hey, how are you? My name is..." is awkward? Or is that a good start? Please let me know...I have 3 days before I talk to him [and I'm freaking out]. ](*,) Thanks.

I see exactly what you're saying. I guess whether someone truly loves someone else would depend a lot on how long they'd been dating, and the kind of people. I know of a few people that started going out one day and then all of a sudden I'd see written somewhere by one of them, "I love you, So-and-so!" Now that drives me completely nuts. Then on the other hand I see a few kids my age (one of them being my friend) that have been going out for a few years now, and I think they are able to say they know what love is because they've been through a lot and had their relationship ups and downs, but stuck together through it all. Very good point, though, in the first reply. I have to agree with that, too.

I agree with the above posts. It's not a good idea. A few years ago, my friend's friend decided to meet someone she met online at the mall and he ended up sexually abusing her and then murdering her. It's a sick world. Be careful with who you talk to online.

Well in my opinion, since I've never had a boyfriend, I think it'd be cool if they told me that, especially if I liked them. I guess because I'd want to be my first boyfriend's first girlfriend, you know? Just to kind of share something. But anyway, it isn't a turn off for me, and I don't see why it would be for anyone else.