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I forgot to mention, That when we broke it wasint on too bad of terms. She said she would love to stay frinds, But i moved away after we broke up, now im back where she lives. We were together for 3 years, ...Thanx In Advance for your help

Hello All, Me and my ex broke just over a year ago. And this whole year there has not been 1 day i haveint thought of her, shes constaly in my mind. I haveint spoke to her or seen her in that time. I just wanted to know do you think its a dumb idea to email her?, just too see how shes been and what shes been to etc, and tell her about what ive been upto this past year. I think she has a new partner now. I dont want to email her and try and get back with her, just a frindly email. Opinions please on what i should say and what not to say..thanx

Hey man, I know how you are feeling, It's been 5 months since my ex girlfriend broke up with me. not as long as you, but i still miss her so much and would love her back. We were together for 2 years she was my first love also. I know how you feel about how they can move on on so quickly and act like nothing ever happen, feeling no guilt etc.. Some advice i can give you though is back off from her a bit, dont show her your emotins asking her back etc.. i did that and learnt the had way it gets you no where. If anything it pushes them further away from you. It got to a point my ex hated seeing me coz all i did was beg, cry for her back. It sux man i know im still thinking of her everyday, and love her with my heart. The best thing to do is acept its over and move on. I know its eaiser said then done, but if we keep dwelling on the past and asking her back all the time just to get rejected, you are just gonna be msirable all your life and make you back at squre 1. Ive been having contact with my ex this 5 months we have been broken up, and everytime i see her or hear her voice i get depressed and down again. Im doing No contact now im in my 2nd week, and im feeling alot better..My advice is proably not much help to you, but i know how you are feeling........ ~Love Hurts~

Sorry to hear that dude. Some adivce i can give you is give her space, trust me, my ex gf broke up with me 4 months ago, and i did all the begging, crying for her to get back with me. But that pushed her further away from me. I definly regret that now. i talk to her as a frind now, and she told me that if i didnt give her pressue and nagging at her etc, and gave her space and time she was concidering to make it work again. So i blew it. So dont contact her for a while so she can have sapce and time, Trust me man!!

Hey All. My ex Girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago now, After a 2.5 year relationship. She also jumped straight into another realationship 1 month after our break up. Which really hurts. Shes doing everything we shared together with him, Which hurts even more! I thought i was getting better coping with everything, but the last few days have been so hard, i feel im back at squre 1. The pain im going through is unbearable. Visions of them having sex and stuff really makes me wanna die. I feel i cant go on without her in my life. I love her so much. And knowing shes out having fun with this dude having sex etc.. why im sitting her so misrable and want to curl up and die. When i go out to bars and clubbing and stuff. i cant enjoy my self becouse shes constaly on my mind. Do you think she even thinks of me or misses me? Being in a 2.5 year relationship and loving eachother so much, i cant understand how she can just forget about me. I try and keep my self busy, But im always thinking about her! I feel so lost and alone, Im even getting stupid thoughts of hurting my self just to take this pain away. People say time heals, But right now it feels like im never going to get over her. I dont know what else to do, i want to ring her, but i know thats not the right option. I know shes happy with this guy, and it makes me feel i wasint good enough. I want her back so badly, but i know its never gonna happen. How can i just forget about the girl i was going to marry and loved so much? im finding it impossable

Hello All, For the story of me and my ex go here link removed First of all thank you all for the advice and help it has helped me a lot with my break up, I'm glad I found this site.. I went to town on Saturday night with my brother and a few friends, and saw my Ex Girlfriend there, she was at the bar getting a drink the same time I was. All I said to her was How Are you, and she replied I'm doing good. That's all that was said the whole night I was just playing it cool. So I got my drink and walked away. I noticed her looking really awkward and uncomfortable and didn't know where to look. She must of thought I was gonna go up to her and talk about our relationship or try to get close to her.. But I didn't! it was hard just to ignore the girl I love and want back. But I just put on a happy face and having a good laugh with my brother and friends. I did a lot of begging and crying for her to get back with me after the break up, so I think it would came to a shock to her and made her think why I ignored her. After awhile my ex left the club to uncomfortable I guess I meet up with a old friend of mine (me and her used to be quiet close when we were younger) we were hitting it of and getting really close, and my ex came back to the same club I was at and saw me close to this girl, and stayed for 1 minute and left again. You could tell she didn't like it, but if she can jump straight into another relationship so quick and not feel bad about it, I sure as hell didn't feel bad about getting close to another girl right in front of her! So I'm proud of my self that I completely ignored her, and showed her I can have a good time to. If I didn't find this site I probably would if done the complete opposite and went up to her. So what you guys think of this, maybe she is jealous? I don't know. She hurt me so much, I would like to see her in a bit of pain for once. I still love her and hurting. And would love her back in my arms, but I just have to move on…. Just wanted to let you guys know my little story and to tell you that No Contact really makes things a lot better ..cya

Thank you all for all the advice I appreciate it. I was starting to feel a bit better after reading all your posts and advice.. But today she rang me up it came a shock to me. And it's just brought me more pain hearing her voice again. It was a friendly chat no arguing or anything. I also had mail for me to pick up there, I'm not sure if she rang up just to tell me that or to have a chat. She said it was good to have a chat with me with no arguing or fighting, I don't really know how to take this, does this mean she misses me? Or maybe she dosint want me out of her life completely so she can rebound back to me if her and the wanker shes with now don't work out? I don't know I'm confused. Ive been trying hard to have no contact with her and she bloody rings me arhhh this is torture!! Now all my pain is back and vision of her with him!!!

Thanx charmed for your advice. Im finding it hard just to forget her as she is my first love. i cant imagine her out of my life. i keep saying to myself just to let her go but i cant i keep thinking back of all the good times we had, and just makes me so upset..does time really heal? i feel that im never going to get over her

Hello all.. First ill tell you what has been going on… My Ex broke up with me about 2 months ago. We were together for 2.5 years, everything was great we talked about our future, getting married, having kids etc. we loved each very much. But the last 6 months everything was going down hill, She got a new job, new crowd of friends. And due to that she came a completely different person, like going clubbing a lot more and just wanted freedom. But I think I have a big part to the lead up to our break up too, ive been depressed for most off my teenage life (I'm 21 shes 20 btw) I hardly ever liked to go out, I have really low self-esteem. And due to that I think I dragged her down with it and she got sick of it. She even cheated on me, I was shattered when I found out, after she cheated on me she decided she wanted a break to see what she really want's. At first I begged and cried her not to go on a break, that ill just accept what she done and move on, I love her so much I didn't want to lose her. But she was sure she wanted a break. Any way after the 1 month break she decided that she wanted to make it work and me to move back with her (Bad Move) we were fine at first, but I just couldn't accept the fact she cheated on me I thought I would, but knowing some other guy has kissed and touched the girl I love made me sick. I always nagged her about cheating on me, and how could she do that to me, that was going on for about 2 months. She got so sick of all my bullshit and nagging she left me. I was absolutely destroyed I couldn't eat, sleep I was that hurt. And to make matters worse for myself I didn't keep to the "No Contact Rule" and once again nagged her to get back with me and to make it work, she keep telling me just to leave her alone for awhile that she need her space. So I didn't contact her for a week (I know I should if left it longer) but I just wanted to hear her voice and to see how she is. The chat was going fine, no nagging no pressure to her, just a friendly chat.. Intill she said I don't know how to tell you this but.. I'm seeing someone else. I was hurt so bad I still am! I asked her has she got any feelings for me at all, and she said "Not really" she said it like she had no guilt at all jumping straight into another relationship, we were only broken up for a month! Is it possible to just lose your love for someone and jump straight into another relationship? I feel so responsible for everything. Im really hating my self at the moment I'm even more depressed then I was. She was my world, I feel so lost without her, and knowing shes with someone else sharing everything we had with him makes me sick to the stomach. I was just starting to accept the break up but this is just too much to take its bringing all my pain back. I really want her back but don't know what to do, I really want to ring her will that be a bad move or should I just leave it for a few months? Im hoping that she will have a change of hart and come back to me, is that possible? I want her to realise that we were good together and she made a dumb move. She always told me she loved me, she spoiled me rotten, and been so good to me. I just wish I didn't keep nagging her then ill still have her this day any advice would be appreciated on what I should do or can do…hope you can make sense on everything as you can tell im hurting bad…thanx