Jaiex

Listen, what you did was the right thing to do, but your friend still has reason to be angry at you. She trusted you with that note and you betrayed her trust. Eventually, if she doesn't start cutting herself again, she'll probably forgive you.

We're not that young, but since I'm *internet-shy*, I'll just say we're not of legal age but we almost are.

My girlfriend of about 9 months has left for a few 2-5 week periods over the summer, and since schools out, I didn't have anything to do. When she's gone for more than about a week, I start to think things that make me hate myself, like I think about cheating on her, and for some reason, my mind is telling me that it's okay to be dishonest to her when she's gone. Once she gets back, I can't believe what I was thinking. But the last time she came back, and I felt differently. I do care about her a lot, but it didn't feel right. I felt out of place, like a lego brick in a box of tinker toys. I do enjoy the time we spend together, but it feels like I should be with someone else. Another thing that got to me is when she is here she never wants to do anything physical, all she wants to do is lay there and watch a movie. I don't know how to tell her without forcing her into anything that I would really like it if we would do more physical things more often. I've gotten to 3rd base, so has she, so it's not that it's something new, it's just now she doesn't want to do anything. I don't know if I want to be with someone who just wants to lay there, and I don't know if that means I'm a bad person or not.

Don't worry, most girls I've talked to are ignorant in thinking that men are born without a foreskin and that circumsized penises are actually uncircumsized. And as far as they're concerned, circumsized penises have the head chopped off for some reason. Strange.... O.o Oh well, that's just girls I've talked to.

I have a question to the ladies - Which is your preference? Two fingers rubbing the clitoris, or One/Two/However many fingers inside the vagina? I'm asking this because my girlfriend says me rubbing her clitoris hurts her, and she absolutley loves deep penetration. Is this odd?

Don't worry. I think I'm a little lucky because my penis bends up instead of to one side. But whoever this chick is, she shouldn't have a problem with it.

About 2 months ago I decided to stop masturbating, originally as an innocent challenge to myself, but now it actually means something to me. Anyways, my friend Cody told me that I could get an erectile disfunction from refusing to masturbate when aroused. (For the un-knowing: Erectile disfunction ((in this case)) = Not being able to get an erection.) ...Is this true? Has this ever happened to anybody? Should I masturbate to stay healthy or something? All and any replies are greatly appreciated.

I think I'll try that... anyone have any good book/guide suggestions?

Well, I tried that, but she has only masturbated once ans she didn't like the fact that she was doing it to herself so she stopped. And that was over a year ago, so I don't think she really knows what feels good to her.

Well, long story short, I don't think my girlfriend enjoys me trying to pleasure her. We'll start be passionately kissing, and stroking each others bodys (weaving my fingers through her hair, she massages my back), and then I'll slip my hand down her pants. And she let's me, that's not the problem. I don't know if there is anything wrong with my technique. It consists of me rubbing her clitoris, then gradually moving down to the vaginal opening and stroking the inner wall with one or two fingers. Once, she seemed to like the second one, but then it stopped. The same applies when I'm giving her oral, just I'm more focused on the clitoris. I don't know if she doesn't feel the same passion I do in those moments or what. Can somebody help me?

This is related to the topic, I guess. I used to look at porn and masturbate A LOT, like an hour at least every night. After 2 months I was disgusted with myself and realised how dependent I was on fake women with no clothes on. I decided to try and stop comppletely, and it was very hard for me to go to sleep with the sexual urge still there. After about a week of not looking at porn, I was still going strong, then a couple of days later I looked at porn. About 5 weeks ago I quit again, and I havn't mastubated since, which I'm really proud of. Yeah, that didn't really help anyone in this topic, did it? Lol.

I agree with -Dredg-, I have never REALLY lost all interest in my old partners, but I only think about them at the most maybe once every couple of months.

I have a question somewhat related to this topic. My girlfriend is a virgin, and today we were making out on my bed, I slipped my hand down her pants and I started fingering her, mostly by inserting my middle finger and making a, "come here" signal. Now, I have many questions, but here's my first: She started holding me tight and gripping my arms, but I don't know what that means. It wasn't out of pain, I don't think, or else she would have taken my hand away. Anybody know what this means? Heres another question: How wet should she be? I mean, I'm not turned off or offended, but whenever I stop, I can't hold her with the hand in question because it's damp with fluid, and I don't want to get it on her clothing. Heres my last question, I think: I alternated my pattern with my middle AND pointer finger, so she would get used to the difference in legnths. I tried very gently to slide one finger in halfway and then slide in the other, but she was extremely tight so I stopped and I'm almost positive it hurt her, because she started shaking afterwards and when i started to inset the second finger she immediately grabbed my wrist firmly and pulled on it. I don't know what I should do. Do I need to apologize? Do I need to try to get her to accept two fingers? If so, how do I? Oh, one last question, and this one sounds stupid: After I finger her, my hand... doesn't smell so good. Is this normal? *EDIT* - I forgot to say that I have fingered her before, on about 4 occasions I think. I only used one finger.

I have a question somewhat related to this topic. My girlfriend is a virgin, and today we were making out on my bed, I slipped my hand down her pants and I started fingering her, mostly by inserting my middle finger and making a, "come here" signal. Now, I have many questions, but here's my first: She started holding me tight and gripping my arms, but I don't know what that means. It wasn't out of pain, I don't think, or else she would have taken my hand away. Anybody know what this means? Heres another question: How wet should she be? I mean, I'm not turned off or offended, but whenever I stop, I can't hold her with the hand in question because it's damp with fluid, and I don't want to get it on her clothing. Heres my last question, I think: I alternated my pattern with my middle AND pointer finger, so she would get used to the difference in legnths. I tried very gently to slide one finger in halfway and then slide in the other, but she was extremely tight so I stopped and I'm almost positive it hurt her, because she started shaking afterwards and when i started to inset the second finger she immediately grabbed my wrist firmly and pulled on it. I don't know what I should do. Do I need to apologize? Do I need to try to get her to accept two fingers? If so, how do I? Oh, one last question, and this one sounds stupid: After I finger her, my hand... doesn't smell so good. Is this normal?