longing for Ex

My Ex is so hot, we were together for 3 1/2years, he left me for someone else. Real she cheated on him the first week they were together. This went on for 9 yrs . Finally they ended it. Two yrs ago I got in touch with him thru facebook. He called me as asked. He and his ex have been apart for 5 yrs. So I would go visit him from time to time. Then he committed to someone else. I left it alone. He got in touch with me one day and need a ride home. His girlfriend had left him in the motel taken the car all the money and went to the casino. She was gone for 3day, called me to see if I would go pick her up she was in trouble, so I agreed. I get there and she no where to be seen. I let it go. He gets in touch with me again, wants to know if we can hang out. At this point I had enough, So I go to hang out with him and he’s living in a van. I’m shock at the way he’s living, hes better than that. I have two place’s to live one at the river and one in the city. I invite him a his friend to the river they love it there the friend wants to move in and help me with the rent, am all good with that. Then his friend encourage him to move there too he’ll pay his share of the rent. Right off the bat he wants the master bedroom, he gets it. I’ll take the smaller of three bedroom because I won’t be there as much. For the last 4 mouths he & I have been together. Also because my bedroom doesn’t have a bed. Am A big fool for wasting my time , how ever he’s so good in bed. Dumb Ass in Ca. I wanta be with him, how ever am a lot older than he is, my age is showing I still look good, then there the girl he really wants to be with and she doesn’t have time for him. What do I do. I know get my head examined

Did you try dating other people when you were not with him?

You know that this is not going to end well. He is not with you for the right reasons and neither are you. Him being "hot" is a very superficial reason to stick around with someone who is interested in other women and is with you for material reasons. You have seen how pathetic the older person/sugar daddy/sugar mamma in such scenarios looks like. Do you really want to be that person just to be with someone who is "hot"? And what happens when he cheats and leaves for someone else again?

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Is he a drug dealer? Or just a con artist? There are no decent men your age to date?

His girlfriend had left him in the motel taken the car all the money and went to the casino.

I go to hang out with him and he’s living in a van.

I wanta be with him, how ever am a lot older than he is

Agree. This is the best course of action to take.

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Yeah you need your head examined! Have some self respect and get away from this guy. What's it matter that he is "hot?" He sounds like a lousy person.

What do I do. I know get my head examined

What do you want us to tell you? You have no control over him or his desire to be with this other woman... you are with someone that is using you... the only thing you CAN do is accept the consequences of your decisions and reflect on whether or not they are worth it for you.

Agree. This is the best course of action to take.

Best advice I have ever given in this group .