momo5555

Someone please help me!

I use to be a good boy, until I got depressed. Nothing was going right for me. I ignored my fears about drugs and became a smoker. It didnt matter that it was dangerous because I didnt want to live. I never share anything with my councelor. My parents found out. Everything got worse. Now I only do stuff every once in a while. You could try limiting how much you do your "bad" activities.

This girl who I have been friends with for over five years just told me a few days ago that she met this guy online. My friend (lets call her M) said that she would have told me sooner, but she didnt know how to explain it so I wouldnt get upset. She explained that they started talking on a message board about depression a year ago and since then they have been talking on instant messanger. He (lets call him S) has said that he has romantic feelings for her and that she likes him back. While M is telling me this I cant believe that she didnt tell me and that she didnt even care when I told her that I was going to ask her out, but then held back because she told me she met someone. Yep, that day I was finally going to ask her to make a commitment with me, but then was cut down by the news. How can someone say that they love someone they met online? They cant go on dates or spend time together. They cant have an involved relationship with eachother if they cant get to really be with eachother. Im here for M and I see her at school. We talk a lot. I could just drive to her house and we could go out some place. S cant do that with M because he lives far away. Theres no gurantee that they will ever meet in real life. He could just be telling lies to get her mixed up and get pleasure out of fooling her. M and I have been through a lot together. The time I had braces. The time she had an eatting disorder. The time I went out with a mean girl who abused me. The times she would call me late at night brying over family issues. I can honestly say I love her, and I want her to understand, but I just dont know what to do. She needs to wake up out of this fantasy world she is in, and take a look around.

Theres this girl Ive known for a long time. We dont have any classes together this year and we rarely talk. Ive tried to say hi and sometimes start conversations with her. Every time we interact, its like shes playing a game. For example: one time I called her and commented on a nice job she did on a presentation. She then then asked, "Was there something you wanted to ask me?" Sometimes I say hi and she doesnt answer, but sometimes she does. My friend says that she wants me. I can see it in her body language as well. But she has this game. What can I do? How can I play along? Are there things I can do to understand it?

I kind of understand what your going through. I wake up every morning, forcing myself to go to school. I dont have many friends and the so-called ones I do have arent any help. Ive liked this girl for like 5 years now, but she doesnt know Im there. Last year I missed months of school because I was so depressed. I still kind of am, but Im on medication. It helps, but I still feel sad, confussed, scared, upset when it comes down to her. I guess what Im trying to say is there are people in this world like you. Dont feel alone. You could try seeking some help.

Theres this girl that I really like. I see her around every once and a while. We have never really talked or interacted with each other. What can I do to start talking with her? Im kind of shy and quiet, but Im willing to try most anything. If theres something I could do or say to get her interested in talking or even looking I'd like to know.

Are there different levels of dating? Like, first you start with this, then move to that, and then that.

Anamarie89 asked about her personality, so here goes: shes the kind of girl that likes to fit in and always be with her group of friends. Sometimes in class (we are still in school) she is out going, and will talk a lot to people she knows, but we never talk. We dont have any classes together anymore. She can say things that are funny. I think shes smart when she wants to be. I dont know her very well, so I could be wrong, but thats what I see.

Sex isnt everything you know. Sure its great, but Im sure you rather be in this relationship for more than just that. From my experiance with women, I'd say the way to handle it is to get as close to her as possible. Start slow, like she stays the night at your place or something, and work your way up to more intimate things. If she asks why your suddenly touching her more or something, you could say that you just want to be with her. Girls like touchy feely things.

I like this girl. I have been trying to get her to notice me, so I figured the best way to do that, is to try and talk to her. I tried to find a time when she is alone and not busy. I went up to her as she was walking, and said hi. She didnt turn, look, or anything. So I said hi again, and again. Finally she turned and looked at me with no expression. I said hi and tried to wave, so she would know I was being friendly. I could not hear an answer, but she smiled a little and turned her head so her hair covered her face. I couldnt see very well, but I think her face was turning red! I have read a few things on body language and I cant figure it out. Is she interested? What should I do? Should I try again? Maybe this time ask her how she is? Or just walk up and start talking?

I would talk to the girl, but we arent friends. We never were. We just knew each other from school, and social events. Shes never really said anything to me, and I havent said anything. Im afraid of messing up. How do I get her to be mine?

This is a really complex problem. It would be really helpful if someone could give me some advice. I have secretly loved this girl for about five years. The only person who knows is my best friend. A year ago my best friend (who is a girl) told me that the girl I like loves me in return. My friend found this out by listening in to the girl's conversations with her friends, everytime they would go to the public restroom. A few weeks ago I saw the girl I like with a guy. My friend told me not to worry about it because she heard the girl talking, and it was just to make me jealous, so that I would do something. Ive been talking on and off with my friend, and I dont know what to do. Everyday I see the girl and the guy, and it really hurts. Ive watched them. Its weird because when she hugs him, she looks over his shoulder at me, as if to see if Im watching. Every time I walk by the girl, she grabs the guy and starts doing stuff. When Im not there, she acts as if she doesnt even know him. I wish there was something I could do, but I dont know what that would be. The girl and I dont ever really talk, so its hard even to say hi. I wish I knew what to do.