smackie9

A sure confident man says what he says....that means they will tell you without hesitation what you mean to them, and how committed he is with his words and actions that match. He doesn't drag his feet for months. Me personally would never sit around and wait and ponder "what are we?" I would say to part ways because your expectations, and what you need isn't there. You have already spent enough of your time on this.

Many married people find solace in another's arms for many different reasons. Only she can answer your question. I feel the most common is a way to escape from the ordinary. The thrill, feeling alive, dopamine rush (which is addictive). Her head is stuffed far up her a$$ over it she's gonna deny/protect her addiction. I know you are trying to get your head around this, it's very destressing especially when you have your family to think about....the future is so unknown. Everyone is right. You need to seek out legal counsel, and separate. Make sure you communicate well and reassuringly to your children. Work on fair shared custody. I feel horrible for you...your everything that you have ever known is gone. That's so heartbreaking. I wish you well, and hope for the future.

You suffer from generalized anxiety disorder. Please seek out a therapist for proper diagnosis and treatment, instead of giving up on yourself. It’s treatable.

Ya been there...be pleasant if needed, hold head high, just walk on by.

Doesn't matter what it's called...it's not right. Bad enough that her friends noticed it too. It's like he's going around and telling coworkers/ friends that the OP is not his GF. I have been there myself...I dumped the guy after 3 weeks. My verdict is this guy don't give a real flim-flam about the OP.

Hun he's ghosted ya. It's over.

When the behavior is bad towards you, you don't try and fix it, you end the relationship because it's not right. You deserve better, so move on and find better.

What has happened two months ago? Just like any addiction, a porn addiction is a coping mechanism to deal with mental health issues, a tragedy, infidelity, grief, lost of a job, low self esteem, insecurity, avoidance because of a physical or health issue, involve the with someone on the internet or work, etc. The only thing that’s going to work is communication. Have to tell him how you feel, ask him why, what happened, what is his thinking of this, etc. Maybe he just wants out of the relationship. If he doesn’t cooperate, pack yer stuff up and leave. It ain’t worth it.

I am so sorry this happened to you. Your world must feel it’s been turned upside down. You must feel so conflicted…this person has been a part of your life for 6 years and yet it turns out they are not the person you thought they are. What a gut punch. You know what you need to do, yet it’s very hard to think a life without them. This person robbed you 6 years of your life. A life that could have been full of friends, dates, fun and activities that teenagers enjoy. But it’s not too late. You can rise above the anguish and really start building your own life. It will feel strange at first, maybe for a couple of months but you will adjust and feel so free. Please end this relationship.

You are just being thirsty...especially fresh out of an abusive relationship. Everything starts to look good on the menu, especially to someone who is being so nice to you....something you have been deprived of. You can easily get into a rebound situation. You are infatuated, not in love. Pull yourself together. Spend less time at home, get busy doing things with yer buddies so you can feel yourself again, and shake off the residual of your past relationship.

I would suggest her getting a full physical as you mentioned this is new behavior. There could be a medical issue like a brain tumor, allergy, a drop in hormones, chemical imbalance, early Alzheimers, unknown to you a drug issue, exposure to a chemical or mold, baby blues/depression. It's best to rule these things out before going forward with a phycologist.

He's unsure about your motives as many guys have found themselves in this situation...confused. He's being cautious. You will see if things are more than what they are at prom night.

It's kid's stuff. He mentioned it to some guys and got the s%^& teased out of him, so he publicly made sure everyone knew he didn't like doing it and deflected his involvement with the outburst. Make sense? He's going to be ignoring you to save his own reputation. So leave him be. Maybe after high school he will come around. Now fetishes are private and mostly harmless unless you lack control over it. Seek out some counselling in how to do so. You can enjoy it and later meet others who like the same experience, no harm done...just don't let it interfere with your social life or your relationships.

You waited 4 years to ask for advice? You need to get out now.

Trauma bonding and white knight syndrome are both codependent style relationships....bad.