Should I Try to Get Back Together With My Ex After Betrayal?

Dear eNotAlone: Natalie and I dated for four years. I thought she was the love of my life, she was bright and beautiful like a star in the night sky. We talked about our future together, but then one day she walked away.

It was like a storm had swept away the sunshine of our future. When I asked her what was wrong, she said she just wanted to be alone. My heart sank.

A few months later, I found out that she had been seeing someone else while we were together. She had been looking for a way out and that's why she left me. I felt betrayed and I was devastated.

I knew that I needed to get over the hurt, but I couldn't seem to do it. It felt like a wall was preventing me from moving forward.

But then last week, I found out that Natalie is single again. I want to get back together with her and make things work, but I'm afraid that she won't want to be with me. I also don't know if I can really trust her again after what happened. I need some advice on how to move forward with us. Should I try to get back together with Natalie? What should I do to make sure that this time around our relationship will last?

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When it comes to getting back with an ex after a betrayal, the decision is always complicated and often fraught with danger. You need to consider if they have changed and if you yourself can forgive to fully move forward. Facing such a dilemma, it's important to look at the situation logically and assess which way is the best for you.

First, let's address your doubts. Can you trust your ex, or will she betray you again? You need to reflect on your relationship and remember all the good times you had together. If the memories give you hope that there's something worth fighting for, then take a chance. Yes, there's a risk that it won't work out, but there's also a chance of a wonderful reunion.

However, if the memories of your relationship awaken fear rather than hope, then your decision is clear. Forgiveness is a powerful thing, but don't feel pressured to forgive and forget if you don't believe you can. It would be a disservice to yourself to remain in a toxic relationship, so be honest and ask yourself if you truly feel safe and ready to start anew.

Once you've answered your doubts, start thinking of ways to make amends with your ex. Find ways to show her that you care and are sincerely sorry. Personalize your gestures according to their personality, and make sure they come from a place of love. Be patient and don't rush them into forgiving you if they're still hesitant.

Most importantly, prepare yourself for the outcome. If your ex doesn't want to get back together or if the reunion isn't as magical as you wish, be gentle with yourself. Your feelings are valid, no matter what happens. Try to accept what happened and remember that you've done everything you can.

Making the decision to get back together with your ex is a tricky path, but if you tread carefully and follow your true feelings, you'll make the right choice for yourself. Take your time, be considerate and don't forget to stay kind to yourself throughout this challenging process.