How do you cope with the end of a long-distance relationship?

The ending of a long-distance relationship is something both persons dread. Every goodbye carved within layers of insecurity and pain as each one says goodbye without knowing if or when they will be reunited. Farewells are scattered through conversations, exchanging lingering hugs, and the sadness of being far away brings about a deep hollow in one's heart.

Being in a long-distance relationship can be very challenging and the transition of it coming to an end can be much more agonizing. Some struggles are specific to long-distance relationships such an excessive amount of time apart, separation from friends and family, hypersensitive expectations, heightened vulnerability from handling your emotions solo, and sudden changes in plans. It's no wonder that many people fear the thought of being in a long-distance relationship.

Not many people can fathom the strength it takes not just to stay in, but to make it work in a long distance partnership with two completely different lifestyles and love at a distance. However, letting it go is somehow even harder. Saying goodbye is never easy, but sometimes there is no other choice than to take this step to closure. The end of a long-distance relationship may require some extra preparation to avoid added trauma.

The best way to handle this end is by saying goodbye properly. The emotional conclusions of a long-distance relationship should not be taken lightly; its still an intimate connection between two people. It’s important to recognize that what once was is no longer, and both parties must accept the fact that their relationship will end. This allows one to move on with a clear conscience. As difficult as these closing moments may seem, saying goodbye respectfully permits each partner to leave with pride, knowing that they treated each other with care and respect.

This is why planning final conversations is so essential. A conversation allows each person to share their feelings, ask questions, and air out grievances. Doing this gives closure to the relationship and prevents any negative spirits between the two. Trust is paramount at the end of a long-distance relationship since the couple has gone through many obstacles together. Some might need to hear a heartfelt acknowledgment of apology for any issues or mistakes that were committed during the course of their relationship.

During your goodbye, practice honor and validation. Both individuals need to have the chance to explain their perspective and each deserves to be heard, even when perspectives clash. If possible and if it's comfortable for both, it would be also beneficial to talk in person or over video call. Even if the relationship didn't end as planned, opening your heart and mind to the different narrative of your ex-partner will allow you to pay honor to your relationship and respect to the other human being.

Of course, take all the necessary time and space to mourn the ending of the relationship; this is necessary in order to come to terms with the loss. Allow yourself to feel the grief, acknowledge the pain, and process the hurt feelings. Remember that you’re not alone, and you don’t have to feel ashamed for wanting to be with someone who is geographically distant. Expressing it is a good way to move forward and grow.

When the sadness is overwhelming and all hope seems lost, find comfort in a trustworthy friend, mentor, or teacher. Having a person to confide in is not only a wonderful way to get support, it can also help to reframe the situation and see it in a new light. There might even be an opportunity for personal growth. Refrain from isolating yourself and instead, remain active and surrounded by positive people who value you.

It is important to remember that life doesn't end with a breakup. In fact, the end of the long-distance relationship should be seen as a learning experience and opportunity to grow. New beginnings and unexpected venues await, and the next relationship may come at a different time and in a different place.