When you're planning your special day, having the support of your family – especially your siblings – is incredibly important. Unfortunately, there are cases where non-traditional weddings – so-called "fake" weddings – can lead to a clash between siblings as one sister might worry that it will interfere with her own "real" wedding. If you're currently stuck in this difficult situation and don't know what to do, here are a few tips on how to handle it.
First of all, it's important to keep in mind that any friction between you and your sister is completely normal – at least in the ideal world, your wedding day should be special, unique, and free from worries and distractions. That natural instinct to protect the uniqueness and specialness of your wedding day is something we all share, and you should approach the issue with that understanding and respect.
When dealing with your sister's concerns, it is important to engage her in an open and honest dialogue, asking her directly and lovingly what she is feeling. It is also helpful to respectfully listen to her point of view even if you don't necessarily agree with it. Remember, it is in your power to create a safe space for her to express her feelings without fearing she will be judged or criticized.
At the same time, take some time out for yourself in case the conversation gets too heated. Go for a walk, listen to some calming music, or take some deep breaths. This can help restore energy, quell uneasy feelings, and give you perspective on how to better handle the situation.
Next, think about ways to compromise in order to make both parties satisfied. Try to reach a mutual agreement through brainstorming and discussing ideas together, like offering to have your wedding on a different date and venue, or hosting a destination wedding in a place neither of you have ever been before.
By showing solidarity and respect, you can create a constructive atmosphere conducive to resolving the issue and amicable compromise between both of you. After all, a wedding doesn't just involve yourself - it is important to consider everyone it affects and involve them in the discussion.
Once you make a decision, set a timeline on gathering the information and resources needed, and build in some flexibility in case plans change along the way. As long as you are comfortable and happy with the outcome, be sure to go forward with sincerity and commitment to making the wedding the positive and memorable experience you both deserve.
No matter the formalities, the most important part of your wedding is sharing precious moments with your closest family and friends. It is such a special occasion, and surmounting the temporary tension and reaching a resolution to your disagreement will help ensure it remains beautiful and enjoyable for everyone.