Letting go of a Long-term Relationship: Tips for Getting Over the Pain

Getting over a long-term relationship is one of life's toughest challenges. You have invested many years in this relationship, shared countless memories and moments, and have gone through thick and thin with your partner. Having to accept that things won't get back together can feel like part of you has been ripped away, leaving you feeling lost and empty. Although there is no one-size-fits-all cope-strategy for this situation, there are steps you can take to guide yourself to emotional recovery.

Firstly, it's important to know that you can use each stage of grief as a means to heal. It's normal to experience some level of denial, bargaining, anger, depression and finally, acceptance - make sure you allow yourself to process all of these emotions. They are all essential steps towards coming out the other side of your break-up. Try not to rush out of them or even suppress them. Acknowledge your pain and give yourself time to heal.

It's also important to remind yourself that you are more than defined by this particular relationship. It's easy to forget who you were before and without your partner, but it's integral to your emotional recovery that you spend time rediscovering yourself again. Make time for yourself, set some goals and pursue new hobbies - both activities that you enjoyed prior to the relationship or something completely new. These experiences will help you build confidence and gain a better understanding of who you really are.

Forgetting about your ex doesn't mean erasing years of memories. It just means stop yourself from constantly dwelling on the past. Spend time reminiscing on the good times, but find a way to not spend every waking moment in a vortex of nostalgia. If necessary, make a physical playlist or memory box of your journey together. It's also a great idea to set small achievable goals that can distract you from your thoughts. Whether it's a day trip or even an online course, small accomplishments can create tiny wins which will help the healing process immensely.

One of the most beneficial ways to move on is through meaningful connections. Reach out to friends or family who you trust and rely on them for support. Connect with people who have experienced similar situations and who can provide empathy and comfort in a difficult time. Find strength in knowing that you're not alone in this journey.

Finally, remember that being single again doesn't mean being alone. It’s an opportunity to explore relationships with potential partners and even yourself. Don't rush into another rebound as these tend to lead to short term fixes instead of long-term healing. Consider it an opportunity to explore what you need and want in a relationship, which may become useful if and when you do meet someone new.

Let go of what used to be and embrace the journey that lies ahead. Your loved ones and the universe will be supporting you during the tough times. Even if it may seem insurmountable now, you will come out of it stronger and wiser. When you let go of your former love, you make way for newer, better and brighter adventures.