badBoy101 Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 I have been broken up with my ex a very long time, almost 3 years in fact and we last has any email contact 18 months ago. Last year I noticed several message on a blog we used to go together. The messages were not directly to me but contained poems and phrases only we would both know. I think "something" is up here and my friends say she is trying to test the waters for a possible re-establishment of contact. Anyone got any thoughts on on what she is up to here? Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 If you ahve been broken up for 3 years, then I am sure she would have used those phrases with someone else. People often mis-interprate just random jokes as "personal jokes"... Imo, anyways... I know my ex thought I was reffering to him on my myspace, but I wasnt, he just thought the phrases I was using, I had only used with him. Link to comment
Lboogie23 Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 she may be trying to test the waters, as you said. Just because it has been three years doesnt' mean anything. Do you want to contact her or what would you think about reestablishing a relationship? Link to comment
Wandering_Sword Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 Until she says something, don't over think it. You'll just give yourself a lot of unnecessary grief. Ignore it until something more concrete lands at your doorstep. Link to comment
badBoy101 Posted February 28, 2007 Author Share Posted February 28, 2007 The phrases were ones we reserved for each other so i do know it is her I am in no "grief" whatsoever, I'm just curious as to why she feels the need to come back now and test the waters instead of contacting me directly. Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 The phrases were ones we reserved for each other so i do know it is her But what if she reserves them for someone else now? I mean, you have no way of knowing if she uses your little pet names or sexy jokes with anyone else, do you?> They MIGHT be for you, but if they arent and you contact her about it... it could be pretty messy Link to comment
badBoy101 Posted February 28, 2007 Author Share Posted February 28, 2007 well eva we'll agree to see this differently, cheers for chiming in though Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 Im not trying to cause grief, but it does pay to see things realistically, most things arent as sacred as we want them to be, and seeing as you havnt given us an example of what phrases she used.... Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 If you have any doubts, feel free to explore the issue. Drop her a line. You're not suffering anymore so it's OK to do it. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 She could have had one, two or three other boyfriends by now... 3 years is a long time... if you want to contact her do, but don't assume anything... MySpace etc. are always ripe with misinterpretations about what is going on and who is referring to whom. Link to comment
addictedblue Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 did you check the dates on the blogs? they are recent right? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 If you ahve been broken up for 3 years, then I am sure she would have used those phrases with someone else. People often mis-interprate just random jokes as "personal jokes"... Imo, anyways... I know my ex thought I was reffering to him on my myspace, but I wasnt, he just thought the phrases I was using, I had only used with him. Not everyone simply transfers "special" names or rituals to successive partners. Everyone is different, it is not one size fits all. Perhaps this person is indeed reaching out. I would say proceed with caution. If you want to re-kindle something, then perhaps drop her a line...but don't mention that you saw the possible hints she gave, just keep it casual. Good luck and I hope it works out. 1 Link to comment
badBoy101 Posted February 28, 2007 Author Share Posted February 28, 2007 Thank you for your responses. Crazyaboutdogs, you are very close to the mark in what you say, it's clear she was "reaching out" and those are exactly the words I would use also. To me there is a world of difference between young people broadcasting their lives and so on on somewhere like myspace and someone in her early forties (as she is) leaving a subtle (or not so subtle) message on a quiet, little known and very private member-only forum. I won't be responding to her though because really there is no reason to. Time has passed, we are different people now and it would be difficult, indeed inappropriate, to attempt to re-establish any connection today. Nonetheless, it was interesting to see her make a re-appearance after so long, I wish her well for the future. Link to comment
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