Unsure of taken action

[Sieze2k]

Hello, I'm a bit unsure of myself with the lack of action i took the other day when I went to the pub with my girlfriend and my mates.

 

To make it short, we ended up playing doubles at pool with these guys there, and one of them was very drunk and couldn't take losing at the game so starting getting aggressive in other ways (e.g getting aggressive).

 

One thing he did was begin speaking to my girlfriend. She brushed off anything he said, it didn't bother me that he was talking to her. However, at one point this guy abruptly peck-kissed my girlfriends hand.

 

I didn't do anything about it, only joked about it with her afterwards since I saw it as trivial. However it has been snagging on my mind that maybe I should've been aggressive to the guy about this, even though he didn't do anything else. One part of me thinks "ah its no big deal, he only pecked her on the hand and he was very drunk" but another part says I should've been violent about it.

 

I'm unsure and want to know everybodys opinion of what they would do/would've advised me to do. It's really snagged onto my mind and wont go away.

 

Thanks!

[melrich]

You did the right thing. You were the bigger man.

[DN]

Yep - I agree with melrich. Being aggressive could easily have escalated into something a lot more serious. Or ridiculous.

 

You did the right thing.

[EvaGina]

he kissed her hand??

Im sorry, but I dont see an issue at all.

[Jeffrey2095]

Hi,

 

It would seem a provacative move on his part... (Dutch courage)

 

But, I think you did absolutely the right thing guy.

 

Best wishes and welcome

 

Jeff

[anggrace]

Getting violent over some drunk guy pecking your girls hand would be rediculous. Did she imply you should of done something?

[xmrth]

I can tell you from my perspective, I haven't had my hand be kissed, but my boyfriend's friends have blatantly flirted with me, told me I'm beautiful and all those things right in front of my boyfriend and a small group of people, and the way my boyfriend reacted was ideal. He just smiled, laughed, joked... and then went on-- the night went on, whatever, their friends did whatever they were doing and weren't overstepping boundaries.

However, it didn't bother him, but if it DID bother him and if he reacted in a negative way, I would feel so threatened and embarrassed.

 

It would hurt more than just you-- those little stupid things like some drunk guy pecking a kiss on your girlfriend's hand are not worth getting upset over. I don't think it's terribly wrong that you did, but that sort of thing is something you just leave alone... You so did the right thing. If he was like putting his arms around her or kissing her cheek, or just taking it further like that, then that's different.

[Sieze2k]

thank you so damn much everybody, I'm amazed I got all these replies. I know I made a big deal about it, and after that reassurance, it's just up to me to put things straight in my head now, and you've helped a lot.

 

I think i was just pressured from stories around me. I've heard of people getting into fights over trivial things, ESPECIALLY with women, and sometimes you regret not doing the same thing because it seems so normal.

 

I feel a lot more calmer and in control now. I can't thank you enough!