swertyqwerty Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 I want to ask her out, but I have so much trouble dealing with face to face interaction when it comes to asking someone out that I asked for her email. I see her 5 times a day and when we talk, we do connect. I do know that I make her laugh. But we don't really get a chance to talk. We always manage to sit a few desks apart and we don't leave the classroom at the same time. We don't really have time to talk, except for a few minutes a day with the class filled with other people. It makes sense that I can't ask her out, right? There's no opportunity for me to ask her privately. So would it be okay if I sent her an email to ask her out on a date? And if I do ask her in an email, how should I ask her? Should I make the message long, should I mention why I didn't ask her in person, or should I send a few short emails first. Link to comment
DizzyDoris Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 Hmmm i wouldn't ask her out in an email, but thats just me personally. I would prefer to be asked out in person. I suppose you could exchange a few friendly, flirty emails first though, to test the waters? see what sort of response you get from her. When i was that age, i didnt have a computer, but if i did, i would have probably shown the email to all my friends (us girls are like that!) so bear that in mind if you do decide to do it via an email. Link to comment
Me and myself Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 And if I do ask her in an email, how should I ask her? Don't do that by e-mail, please. I'm shure you'll find a way to find the time and opportunity to talk to her personally. I'm also shure you'll find a way to overcome your fears. Don't you think she might find it strange since you meet each other 5 times a day? If you do that, she will know you're affraid of asking her personally. But if you talk to her personally she might see you as a person who really cares for her, so much that have found all the strengh to overcome all the fears....and, probably, she will admire you for that. Link to comment
swertyqwerty Posted February 5, 2007 Author Share Posted February 5, 2007 5 times a week, not day. My bad I guess I just have this fear of getting rejected still Link to comment
dopexile Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 women like men that have confidence in themselves... you wouldn't goto a used car dealership and buy a car if the dealer wasn't sure if the car was good or not. If you don't have the confidence to ask her out in person then she might perceive that as weakness and a major turn off. 1 Link to comment
TheRedQueen Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 You see her in person five times a week, and you're honestly thinking about asking her out on a date via email? Sorry swer, but I just don't like, and, or recommend it. It would be poor form. Find the confidence somehow, and ask her out, in person. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 I also think you should ask her out in person. Afterall, you see her enough. Now, if you didn't see her very often, then I would e-mail her. Just be casual, and say, 'hey, want to go get coffee this weekend?" Link to comment
swertyqwerty Posted February 6, 2007 Author Share Posted February 6, 2007 I also think you should ask her out in person. Afterall, you see her enough. Now, if you didn't see her very often, then I would e-mail her. Just be casual, and say, 'hey, want to go get coffee this weekend?" ya know, i tried that with someone else recently. I just casually asked if she wanted to go watch a movie on a certain day. Later on I found out that she has a boyfriend and didn't consider what I said to be a date. The way I worked it through, I can make sure it makes it seem like a date if I wrote it out online instead of tripping over my lines in person. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 I would e-mail her and ask her for her phone number and when would be good times to call. Link to comment
spiderman_56 Posted February 8, 2007 Share Posted February 8, 2007 forget email... You see the girl 5 times a week and u think about emails ... it's a written statement that u r a wuss and dont have the balls to talk to her and is bound to fail.... grab your balls and ask her to hangout / coffee... Link to comment
sidehop Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 Just ask if she wants to be exclusive... Or you can say the "Will you go out with me line". How do people do it nowadays??? And don't do it online LOL Link to comment
swertyqwerty Posted February 14, 2007 Author Share Posted February 14, 2007 Well, today is the last day of class. Today is V-Day. I now sit behind her in class. God help me if I don't ask her out today. Link to comment
Double J Posted May 12, 2007 Share Posted May 12, 2007 Ask out by e-mail?? Come on man, that sets off "wuss" alarms. Try to gain some confidence to do it in person. Link to comment
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