GetMeBack Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 day 2 well i think reality is sinking in, very slowly i feel realieved now, i think i'm beginning to accept that she's not the one and i found a very good quotes "if you can love the wrong person this much, imagine how much you are going to love the right person" thinking of this gives me hope that someday, someone far better for me will come and she's out there somewhere, waiting for me to heal i love that quote....wow....! Link to comment
wyrllish Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 End of Day 2 Had a generally boring day, non-productive and sad at most times... but ive decided to try and take some action by copying and pasting some of the great advice ive found on here.. so whenever i feel really down i can read it all on one page! Hope this is a step in the right direction... Today is day 2. Not much different going on. Still doing NC, still want to reconcile, but trying to make the very best of each day. 2 months ago until about a month ago I would print out loads of posts from this site and another. I probably have a good inch stack of crap printed out lmao. I rarely look at them anymore, but back then they helped me a TON. Link to comment
messenger05 Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 end of day 8... feeling ok. found out she blocked me on AIM - kinda hurt me i don't know why cause i know we decided to not have any contact. who knows... goodnight - goodluck all Link to comment
lexion Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 day 2 i'm feeling down, knowing she's going with someone else is really got me down there's this emptyness that i feel in my chest, and it's killing me inside Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 day 3 she was the first thing i thought of when i woke up... kind of annoying really.. i hate waking up feeling like this... lexion- you are right about being able to love the right person a whole lot more..hang in there man. Link to comment
lexion Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 day 2 this is a very lonely afternoon usually we chat, or go someplace, maybe shopping, or just talk i miss her, so much i feel sad, lonely, and broken she said that her love for me has gone since 1 year ago, and i can't keep me from blaming myself, i hate her for making me feel this way but i still love her, i don't know what to do Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 lexion, try not to think of the things you did together...it will only tear you apart even more. think of the things you used to do prior to meeting her, and all the things you used to enjoy before this time. hope it helps. Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 i gave her so much post break up... and she accepted them as if there was still hope... sorry had to get that out. i wonder if she'll call soon and say she loves me.. Link to comment
lexion Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 just finished talking with my best friend's sister my feeling is lighter now she said that my ex have been acting strange since before we broke up being close to other guys in church etc Link to comment
Fox1198 Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Do you guys think I should block her on my MSN, or just remove her from my buddy list? Blocking her would mean she can't see me online anymore obviously. Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 i wondered about that the other day... i just deleted her without blocking....which meant she could still see if i was online..but i wouldnt be distracted all the time when i saaw her.. Link to comment
Irish Jax Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Day 21!!!! Going well here. Just keeping myself occupied and when I start to think of him, I quickly push it down and focus on the positives about myself. Day 21!! Onward Link to comment
DuRuffio Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Day 18 Shucks, just when I was doing really well - I had a bad night last night. For the first couple of weeks after the breakup, I was having a really tough time sleeping through the night, because I'd wake up thinking about things and be unable to get back to sleep. However, over the last week or so, I've been able to sleep through most nights without any problems (progress!). Then last night, pretty much out of nowhere, I got barely any sleep, because I kept on dreaming about us. The dreams are pretty much all the same - we reconcile, and end up spending happy times together. So, yeah, I know that it goes back and forth and up and down...I just needed to vent about it. (Though, it'd be nice if those dreams came true, eh?) Link to comment
honeyspur Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Sam and lexion - it's really touching to see how well you guys support each other - gets me kind of choked up!! Ahh...emotional day - GetMeBack is approaching the last leg of NC - Sam coming up on day 4 - gee is leaving for China - the days are flying by now....... I am just a big sap when it comes down to it! Fox, I would envision how you are going to feel once you've deleted - do you think you'll be able to get out there and try some new things? Or will you start panicking? I am always an advocate for walking right through the fire - meaning face the loss head on - so my suggestion would be go for it! DuRuffio - sorry you felt setback - you have been doing so well - you can make it, I know. messenger (hugs) - I'm just glad to see your posts everyday Keep going everyone - you should be proud. Link to comment
Tinnes Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Day 3. Recently I was talking with a friend that was in love with a guy 4 years ago. He left her. Now both of them are in the long relationships. But after some period they somehow regained "frienship", since last October. Since then, they have sex from time to time. Obviously, the only way to really get over someone(if you do not get back with him)is to avoid any kind of contact. I called 4 days ago my ex because he had the surgery next day. Told him to text me when he gets better(not to let myself to call him). Now, I need time for myself again to continue with my life. He did not let me do that. Every time I get over him, he starts to contact me, and my feelings come back. Now, I decided to let go again... Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 aww your so sweet i get moments when i feel i can accept this.. and begin to think that good things will come in the future... i am nowhere near ready at the moment... i do still miss being around her. i also wonder if we will be friends?and how long will it take? Link to comment
GetMeBack Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Well day 22 for me. Just come back from my nans. Feel good today.. Wow just nearly over a week before the end of the challenge. But I will be going longer.. If i can do a month without him. Evidence states that I can live without him. Something I never thought I can do.. Link to comment
bostoneric Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 it will go a lot longer then 30 days, I'm over 3 months in and still struggle. Well day 22 for me. Just come back from my nans. Feel good today.. Wow just nearly over a week before the end of the challenge. But I will be going longer.. If i can do a month without him. Evidence states that I can live without him. Something I never thought I can do.. Link to comment
Fox1198 Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Fox, I would envision how you are going to feel once you've deleted - do you think you'll be able to get out there and try some new things? Or will you start panicking? I'm not panicking at all. I'm just wondering if I should block her on MSN, or just delete her. Maybe I'm over-analyzing this... but I think by blocking her, it will make it obvious to her that I'm hurt by her, at the same time she will know that I'm gone from her life and she won't know what I'm up to (not that she cares). Should I or shouldn't I? Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 fox hmm.. both cases are good...its up to you man... it depends what you think her reaction will be.. would you be distracted to talk to her if you only blocked her? i dont really know what to do about myself to be honest... i want to break NC already and jsut make things right..with her as my friend Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 GUYS THIS IS AN AMAZING THREAD!!! LOOK AT IT AND READ IT ALL! ITS GREAT STUFF>> IT HAS ALL THE ANSWERS WEVE BEEN LOOKING FOR... AND GREAT LINKS TO OTHER THREADS!!! PLEASE READ THIS GUYS! Link to comment
SamT Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 This is a great quote for us all - "No Contact is difficult and at times heart-wrenching – but healing will occur if you tough it out and hang in there. Contacting your ex may bring you temporary relief, but it only makes things harder in the long run – it’s akin to scratching chicken-pox. You will have an almost overwhelming urge to scratch and scratch…knowing that while it may make you feel great momentarily, it will ultimately delay the healing." Link to comment
honeyspur Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 You are welcome Sam - I'm beginning to believe in your willpower..... Jade - I hope people appreciate that art and if you have any pics on line - we'd love to see them. Also want to introduce you to this site - link removed - it's great place for creative people to exchange arts and crafts. What great news Getmeback - you are finding that light - I can telll..... Tinnes - I hope your ex's surgery goes well, I really do. I think you handling this well - being supportive but not expecting from him. It is a good skill to use on everyone in our lives. This day is coming to a close fast - the support is wonderful today!! Link to comment
SweetSmilingYeti Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Day 3 for me! Whoo hoo! Ugh I am dreading school tomorrow. Okay okay I was able to go a whole day IN school (friday) and NOT say a word to him. I will do the same tomorrow. Link to comment
honeyspur Posted March 9, 2008 Share Posted March 9, 2008 Okay okay I was able to go a whole day IN school (friday) and NOT say a word to him. I will do the same tomorrow. Wow. That is impressive. Now I'm EXCITED to hear about school tomorrow to see you succeed AGAIN!!!=D> Link to comment
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