Husband jealous over my 15 YEAR OLD BROTHER

[Beautie]

M husband and I just had a conversation/fight. apparently, he doesn't approve of the photos I took with my brother at our wedding.

There is one of him kissing my cheek.

One of me kissing his.

And one of both of us smooching eachother on the lips.

 

I don't see what is so bad about this? My brother and I have kissed, hugged, cuddled, and even held hands with one another before while I was dating and engaged to him, he didn't have a problem with it then.

Infact, he found it cute.

Why is he jealous now?

[curbie]

Wow... your husband sounds controlling. Sounds like he's in the dog house....

[BrokenWingedFaery]

I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing with your brother, but I think your husband might feel that he should be the one in those pics and not your brother.

[Ms. Babydoll]

I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing with your brother, but I think your husband might feel that he should be the one in those pics and not your brother.

 

I agree, I suggest you try to talk it out peacefully, hopefully he'll let it go, it's nothing big.

[LostInMyThoughts]

I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing with your brother, but I think your husband might feel that he should be the one in those pics and not your brother.

 

I agree.

 

It sounds a lot like jealousy mixed with insecurity. It's completely irrational, but he might feel threatened that you took really cute photos with your brother that looked better than the photos with him in it.

 

Does your husband require a lot of reassurance?

 

Does he put himself down a lot?

 

I only ask, because I dealt with this before, and what your husband is doing reminds me a lot of myself. I'm not excusing his behaviour, just trying to see if there is a pattern of behavior.

[Beautie]

Well, he only had a problem with the last photo, because our kiss was...Quite intense...

My husband doesn't need too much reassurance, but gets very sad and insecure easily, yes.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Well, he only had a problem with the last photo, because our kiss was...Quite intense...

My husband doesn't need too much reassurance, but gets very sad and insecure easily, yes.

 

Because your kiss with your brother was, "...Quite intense..."??? What a way to describe it.

 

...Ick...

 

I love my brother a lot. I even peck him on the cheek sometimes. To which he says..."Yuck, get off me!" But I've never kissed him on the lips (especially not 'Quite intensely'...shudder..), especially as adults and not toddlers. You could say I love my brother, like a brother.

[princess81]

Ok. I have always said this jelousy is never a good sing but he done took it a step further for me he is jelous of your brother I wouldnt ever entertain his concern and I would tell him that and also let him know that I dont appreciate it and need an apology my flesh and blood what is he thinking

[TheRedQueen]

It just seems like something much too irrational to get jealous over. Is your husband honestly fearful of you potentially leaving him for your brother? Something doesn't add up here, I just don't get it?

[Rain__man]

I'm tempted to say that maybe you guys should have dug deeper before beating up on the husband... I'm pretty much with teddy on the "ick" so far...

 

The whole post is just phrased wrong... why would there even be a question of "jealousy"?

[LostInMyThoughts]

Well, he only had a problem with the last photo, because our kiss was...Quite intense...

My husband doesn't need too much reassurance, but gets very sad and insecure easily, yes.

 

Okay, without having to divulge any graphic details, can you elaborate on "quite intense?"

[justpaisley]

Are you sure he's jealous and not just annoyed at what he perceives to be inappropriateness? To me, it's inappropriate to share a "quite intense" kiss with a brother. To you, it may not be, and may be perfectly normal. Discuss this rationally with him to find out if he's actually jealous and sincerely thinks that you will leave him for your brother, or if he simply thinks it's inappropriate behavior. If it's the former, you have a lot more problems than can be explored on eNotAlone. If it's the latter, the two of you need to discuss your boundaries and what you find acceptable in the relationship.

[Luck of the Irish]

because our kiss was...Quite intense...

 

A peck on the lips or using tongue? If you french kissed your own brother and took a pic of it then your husband has every right to get mad. That's sick. If I had a gf who did that, I would run for the hills. You're not from Arkansas by chance, are you?

[Honey Pumpkin]

Because your kiss with your brother was, "...Quite intense..."??? What a way to describe it.

 

...Ick...

 

I love my brother a lot. I even peck him on the cheek sometimes. To which he says..."Yuck, get off me!" But I've never kissed him on the lips (especially not 'Quite intensely'...shudder..), especially as adults and not toddlers. You could say I love my brother, like a brother.

 

I'm with teddybear here, I'm afraid. I *never* kissed my brother on the lips, let alone something intense. I wonder if your husband was upset because he found it a bit 'off', rather than jealousy per se?

[winter2005]

And one of both of us smooching eachother on the lips.

That in my opnion was wrong and disrespectful to your husband

I know your intentions were nothing wrong but .. you have gotts respect that your husband should be the only ... andI say only man in physcial contact with you that way.

[Boughtandpaidfor]

I've heard about families where everyone kisses each other on the lips. If I married into a family where that happened, coming from a family that really wasn't very tactile at all- I would be a little uncomfortable I guess. Maybe he's just a bit shocked. I doubt he's jealous- that would just be weird.

[valiantv]

Feelings are complicated things. Here's a possibility:

 

To be fair to your husband, jealousy isn't as straightforward as you might think - Of course, he is probably not afraid of losing you to your brother. However, he might well think - and justifiably so, IMHO - that *he* is the only one you should be sharing "quite intense" kisses with.

 

I mean it's almost like kissing another guy in a night club or whatever... You might have no intention of ever seeing that guy again - thereforeeee he is no threat - but your husband would still be understandably pissed off about it.

[monkey1]

Is it like Angelina Jolie and her brother kissing "intense"?

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Is it like Angelina Jolie and her brother kissing "intense"?

 

Who knows...but when has anyone ever self-described a kiss between themselves and a sibling that way? I've never heard it before.

[xprincessbugx]

Yeah, that's kind of weird. I've kissed my brother on the cheek just being stupid but I would never ever kiss him on the lips that's gross. No wonder her husband is worried if it was "quite intense" ick

[candy604]

haha are u serious? wow ur husband should not be jeolous at all, probably shocked at the" intense kiss", i'd never ever kiss my brother, let alone " intensely"

[Majoraslayer]

.....feel free to elaborate on the term "intense" in this context.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

.....feel free to elaborate on the term "intense" in this context.

 

Ugh...Please dont....

[Beautie]

.....feel free to elaborate on the term "intense" in this context.

Just pretty forceful, and elongated.

[craign]

Why would you describe the kiss as intense.It sounds kinda crazy when you say it like that.Its like me saying,,,,,,,,,,,,I kissed my sister and i dont know why my girlfriend is so mad.Well can you describe the kiss."Oh it was intense"Do want this to be a big problem for discusion?The way you describe makes it sound like you and your brother were molesting each other at the wedding.