ilovecats Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 There's a lot of people that say that someone they've had sex with was really good in bed or really bad in bed.So my question is,what makes someone good in bed?What can you do to make it so good?Just wondering. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Yeh - good question. And what makes some one better at oral sex than someone else?? I mean, I've heard guys say, "she gives really good...um....cabesa" What does "good" mean?? Good question Cats! Link to comment
RayKay Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Someone whom is into it, and actually seems like they want to be part of the action. I think just showing you genuinely enjoy it, and actually genuinely enjoy it REALLY comes through in the experience. Someone whom is also there for shared, MUTUAL pleasure...not just to get their rocks off. Someone whom is also confident with themselves and their body, and what works for them. It kills the mood when someone keeps hiding their body due to confidence issues, or is clearly focusing more on "what is he/she thinking of my love handles" instead of thinking "DAMN, this feels good, I want more!!". It's about the experience, not the end goal. And showing you want to be there, and are there for BOTH of you, really makes a world of difference. Link to comment
RayKay Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 And what makes some one better at oral sex than someone else?? I mean, I've heard guys say, "she gives really good...um....cabesa" What does "good" mean?? Just from what I have asked male friends....they really like when someone pays attention to the whole package...and areas other than just the penis, whom is not TOO gentle, and uses various techniques (mouth, hands, fingers, tongue, etc). But, it's pretty individual as to what would turn each guy on. So ask! Some like fingernails brushing along the sensitive areas, some go more for the deep throat action. It's no different than guys giving oral...some give it WAY better than others. You have to tell them what is GOOD for you! Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Paying Attention LOL!! care to elaborate? Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Into the experience, into me as much as I am into them, wanting to share pleasure equally, patience, creativity, a sense of humour, comfort in their own body, knowing they are sexy and rocking it!, a deep sense of sensuality and connection to the moment, leaving no part of the body or mind unattended, knowing how to use ALL senses in the experience, knowing and showing foreplay Outside of the bedroom all the way leading up to it........... Lots and lots of things. Love, and being in love, is a beautiful element as well. Even bad sex is great sex when you are in love. Link to comment
Scotcha Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 1/2 cup noise 3 tbl kisses 1 lb enthusiasm variety to taste and a pinch of mushy stuff Link to comment
RayKay Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Into the experience, into me as much as I am into them, wanting to share pleasure equally, patience, creativity, a sense of humour, comfort in their own body, knowing they are sexy and rocking it!, a deep sense of sensuality and connection to the moment, leaving no part of the body or mind unattended, knowing how to use ALL senses in the experience, knowing and showing foreplay Outside of the bedroom all the way leading up to it........... Lots and lots of things. Love, and being in love, is a beautiful element as well. Even bad sex is great sex when you are in love. Yup, I now want to add creativity, sense of humour, connection, sensuality and patience to my answer too! And love...yes, love makes it all 1,000 times even more amazing! Thanks itsallgrand Link to comment
brando Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Well paying attention to your partner..what they like.. touched kissed what sighs are the greatest when touching them... Link to comment
friscodj Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Just ask him what he likes! All guys are not created equal. Communication really helps. Then take what we tell you, and add your own little spin on it. That creativity...will make you famous... It never hurts to say how you feel about the guy either...and how lucky you are to be with him...big points... Link to comment
ilovecats Posted June 21, 2006 Author Share Posted June 21, 2006 Wow!I didn't think I was going to get so many responses about this.Thanks everyone.I just want to make sure that I satisfy whoever I sleep with.I don't want them to go back to friends saying,"she sucked."I'm sure no one would want that.By the way,I didn't mean for that to sound like I sleep around b/c I don't.I've only been with one guy. Link to comment
TheRedQueen Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 By being receptive to your partner's nuances, which enables you to respond to his/her signals with perfect pressure, tempo and verve. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 One of the best guidelines I've heard is this: It's OK to laugh in bed. It's NOT OK to point and laugh in bed. Link to comment
Lily04 Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 If a girl doesn't just lie there, gets involved in the action, feels passionate & knows how to communicate it... I dunno personally as I am still a virgin (!) but umm grab a copy of Cosmo. there's a million articles on this every issue Link to comment
brando Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 I aree communication is vital. Being open with your partner...not just in the bedroom either. The better two people communicate and are aware of eachother, the better the experience. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 One of the best guidelines I've heard is this: It's OK to laugh in bed. It's NOT OK to point and laugh in bed. No joke, eh. lol. I visualized a look of devastation and horror. The point and laugh thing could be traumatizing! Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 There's a lot of people that say that someone they've had sex with was really good in bed or really bad in bed.So my question is,what makes someone good in bed?What can you do to make it so good?Just wondering. Hi ilovecats, You are quick with preparations, aren't you. In addition to what others said please consider BC and preventing STD's. Do not worry, relax, enjoy the ride. Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 If you decide you will be good in bed, you will be. In general - show no fear, work out any issues beforehand. People smell fear, and it'll make them uneasy. Link to comment
Upsetwifeofone Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Communication Relaxation Enjoyment Equality Give it a go if you are comfortable Imagination Have a laugh if things don't quite "go right" Link to comment
onmyownagain Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Saying have you cum yet or are your nearly there probably stops you being a good lover. I know it annoys my wife anyway ;-) Link to comment
kellbell Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Good question: What makes being "good" in bed... 1. Paying attention to one another's needs. 2. Being confident. 3. Relaxed. 4. Being a bit adventurous 1: 5. Foreplay (unless a quickie is wanted....) 6. Some people are not into this but I feel cuddling or just talking and holding one another afterwards is extremely sexy. I have to agree with RayKay...being in love with one another makes all the difference. Link to comment
Siriana Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 You need to click with someone. You need to be compatible and that's it. Some guys said to me that I am great in bed and some were not thrilled! So it is all based on chemistry between two persons. Of course you need to have reasonable amount of self-esteem (about your mind and body), and you need to be relaxed and not ashamed to discuss about sex. You have to feel that sex is something great and be open to enjoy it completely. And having sex with someone you don't find physically attractive is doomed. You mustn't be affraid of intimacy. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 Good sex is different things to different people, I think the best approach is to gain sexual knowledge and practice, practice, practice. Dont ever believe that all the people you are sleeping with are the same find out what errogenous zones they have and then use the knowledge you have gained. Link to comment
Holiday Posted June 21, 2006 Share Posted June 21, 2006 1/2 cup noise 3 tbl kisses 1 lb enthusiasm variety to taste and a pinch of mushy stuff CLASSIC!!! Link to comment
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