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  1. Fair enough. One better would overcome baggage before dating and change. Change occurred to me around age 40... in my 4th relationship which went as part of the baggage.
  2. I am sorry quietgrl, I really am. Hating men makes you put off men. Firstly you have to like yourself regardless. Then look at men as a whole. Have you considered counseling to resolve your issues?
  3. Only you know what imbalances you. Self-admission is hard, self-change is harder, I got round to changing about age 40. Take your time, no rush, I wish you patience and persistence.
  4. Seems her brother is the most helpful? She always will be the bad guy. I wish that the pastor can give her strenght and am hopful the he will not side openly with a lunatic. Explain to her she can't expect much. Please read you PM's.
  5. We have a 47 year old male virgin here. Perhaps he is the last male virgin in the US too. PM me if you want his handle. You can't expect men not to have relationships by the 30s or 40s. You are bitter and I do not want to give you a hard time but you are your limiting factor. There are many men, they are not perfect, nobody is perfect. When will you compromise? I think mature men are not interested in casual sex as it is not very enjoyable. I loving respectful and caring relationship including sex is what nature evolved us for. You could stay by yourself, but I am fearful you do not accept staying by yourself.
  6. It would be good to mix all people, add all cultures, dfiffuse all faiths and educate people to confine fashion and mass-market Audio-visual entertainment to history. I am an optimist, the world is shrinking, the internet helps.
  7. Men with issues who want sex - could you please elaborate about their issues. Men want sex, women want sex, it's natural. About you chasing men, would you have a profile of those you chase? You feel no man ever was interested you? Do you feel attractive?
  8. Try this: Accept Your Body and Learn to Have a Positive Self Image And this:
  9. Yes, I understand you can't help her with that. But you can help her in the house, bringing things up, perhaps pay some bills - she gives you money and bill. An hour a day for more peace seems worthwhile.
  10. OK, the pastor is a good idea, let's see how it goes. Does she have internet access?
  11. That sounds like you are too rigid. You desire/expect but you do not act. That makes depressed. When someone else is ready is hard to judge. You say you are waiting. Are you waiting? You can't count on luck. You really got 3 ways to be happy: You could accept being single forever You could find a man You could find a woman The choice is yours. The rewards too.
  12. What about this. Fundamental Techniques for Handling People Don't criticize, condemn or complain. Give people a feeling of importance; praise the good parts of them. Get the other person to want to do what you want them to by arousing their desires. Six Ways to Make People Like You Be genuinely interested in other people. Smile. Remember and use people's names. Encourage others to talk about themselves and listen to them. Discuss what the other person is interested in. Make the other person feel important. Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking Avoid arguments. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong. If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. Begin in a friendly way. Start with questions the other person will answer yes to. Let the other person do the talking. Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view. Sympathize with the other person. Appeal to noble motives. Dramatize your ideas. Throw down a challenge. Nine Ways to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment Begin with praise and honest appreciation. Call attention to other people's mistakes indirectly. Talk about your own mistakes first. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. Let the other person save face. Praise every improvement. Give them a fine reputation to live up to. Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest. From link removed I read the book ages ago and sent my gf to the course.
  13. No problem, we follow and respect your thinking, you are always welcome to seek advice. Depression leads to easy-attachment issues. You could not protect yourself at that time because you were depressed and J. understands enough psychology to manipulate you. Today, it would not work of course. Your past depression was not your fault either, it's our modern superficial society which caused it. It's hard to survive, one ought to be as gentle as an angel, as rational as a computer and as tough as terminator. There are lots of pleasant things in this world. What would you like to study and what interests would you like to develop?
  14. You mom's response is like mine. Ok, mine knocked holes into my head too. Lots of people are like that. There is one saying like "everyone rises to the level of ones incompetence", meaning that most adults are overburdened and unable to control their lives. The kids and the dog suffer besides themselves of course. Your mom is unhappy and stressed out and what not. Most people are reactive instead of proactive. She could organize things, leave shopping in the car. Your mom is OK and needs help, If she could relax a little, all your lives would be a little better again. I know that you are her doormat right now but please try something. What about manage yourself proactively how to help her. You know what help she needs and when. Write it down, print it out if you can, tell her you want to take care of her and help her. As ever, patience and persistence and do not expect too much, and may you be surprised by the results.
  15. Hi Grace, Turning into terminatrix? It's great you fight, but I would not not have contacted them, rather silently focus on finding other victims instead or helping rape-victims.
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