crvers Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 No, 5 months doesn't seem like very long indeed. Unfortunately, I let this yearning get the better of me last night and I made a mistake. First mistake in 2 months. Damn, I am angry with myself. I called her and talked to her for probably less than a minute. I asked her what she was doing, and she said she was cooking. So I asked if she was alone, and she replied she was at the new boyfriends place. So I told her I would call her another time. She asked if everything was alright and I said fine. She then asked if she could call me tomorrow which I answered no, that I would call her. I quickly got off the phone after that. LOL. So foolish. I knew I wasn't ready to talk to her. I knew I wasn't ready! Yet I still went through with it. I don't know why I did that to myself. 2 steps forward, 3 steps back right? Link to comment
Momene Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Don't be too hard on yourself. It took me 2 whole YEARS to get over my ex-wife but I think getting over can be done in 6-12 months, depending on how you go about it. People who aren;t happy with other aspects of their lives take longer as it is often the relationship that keeps them going. Good luck. Link to comment
crvers Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 See, the weird part is I am happy with every other aspect of my life. My work life is challenging and fast paced, and I work for a fantastic company. I recently got into the property market by purchasing a new apartment. I have a new car that I love, being my previous one was a giant piece of garbage. My friends and family have been very supportive. I have never been closer to my best friends. And becuase of everything I had been going through I started to hit the gym hard. I have never looked better. Plus with the trip and weather we've been having I am nicely tanned. BUT, I can't share it with her. Don't get me wrong, I have made giant leaps in the last couple months from where I was at the beginning of all this. 5 months ago I was a train wreck. Today, as much as the feelings of despair, hate and abondment still reside within myself, I am better able to manage them. But last night I just wanted to talk to her, thats all. I am asking myself whether I am missing the relationship more or whether I miss the friendship. Am I willing to give up the emotional attachment to have her back in my life? Is it worth it? I just don't know.... Link to comment
Momene Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 I think if a suitable replacement came along, she'd be consigned to the history books where she belongs (along with my ex wife and ex-girlfriends). Actually mine are now in ancient history. She has left a gap which won't fill up in 10 seconds. You're part-way there, I'm sorry that you just have to keep going. Good luck. Link to comment
crvers Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 Thanks Momene, I appreciate that. I think your right too. I am at the point where dating isn't a rebound, but more the next step. And I slowly letting that happen. Link to comment
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now