ben71683 Posted February 20, 2006 Author Share Posted February 20, 2006 Like coollady said, it was all in jest. I'm sure none of us expected anything from him. As for the same girl, this was the girl already talking about marrying you, moving to be with you, and having your kid. Why would you think money would change any of that? She loved you when you didn't have money. And thats what counts. I'm going to wait a little while to come forward because of her im still in love with her and had a good job before and im going to that job and acting like nothing has happened. Do you think I can still have her. I left a message on her phone saying it was urgent. Link to comment
melrich Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Do you think I can still have her. I left a message on her phone saying it was urgent. You have to divorce the two. If you tell her about your win now and she decides to get back together with you....what will that say, how will you feel. I think you have greater issues to consider right now than your ex. Link to comment
PassionatePices Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 CONGRATULATIONS Ben!! Enjoy yourself! Link to comment
ben71683 Posted February 20, 2006 Author Share Posted February 20, 2006 You have to divorce the two. If you tell her about your win now and she decides to get back together with you....what will that say, how will you feel. I think you have greater issues to consider right now than your ex. The thing is I don't even know if shes my ex or not; im just worried and haven't heard from her. Link to comment
melrich Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Why not just call her then and talk to her? Link to comment
ben71683 Posted February 20, 2006 Author Share Posted February 20, 2006 Why not just call her then and talk to her? I keep getting her answering machine and left a message "its urgent" Link to comment
ShySoul Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 There are other issues to consider. The money doesn't change anything in your relationship. You need to talk with her and figure out where you both stand. Be honest and really listen to her. And this doesn't change the problem trusting that you seem to have. If anything, with so much money, it will probably be harder to trust people. That is one issue that you really need to deal with. Link to comment
melrich Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Well I'm sure she'll call you when she gets the message. How long since you have spoken? How long you been going out together? Link to comment
Hope75 Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 You won the powerball???? Hey! That was supposed to be our money! (BTW, congrats!) PS- my bf says you should drop the girl, hire a trainer and date a supermodel. Link to comment
adideas Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Ben - - See how quickly life can change though? Just a couple of weeks ago you posted with the title how can I go on living (or at least something close to that!) And see what God had in store for you? Cool, huh? Love is as much as choice as it is a feeling. You cannot force her to love you or stay in a relationship with you. And if you do, how will you be able to trust that love and know it's just not for the $$$? How will you know she is true about her feelings? Not to mention that fact that long term relationships are hard enough, pressuring someone to stay together when they're really not into it just opens up a ton of other problems. Money does change things in your life, more than you will ever imagine. Try to be like Forrest Gump when he bought stock in Apple ---"That's just one less thing to worry about". Again, go see an tax attorney tomorrow! Then see a financial advisor that is well established. GET GOOD TAX ADVISE! You now have a big target on your back with the IRS! I get the chance to be around people with lots of money with my work. The ones who are really rich seem to have it together. Most of them are very down to earth and act like you and me. The ones to be afraid of are the ones who "act rich" because they usually don't have as much as they say and are out to get something out of you. You're only 23 if I remember right, if you only had two nickles to rub together you would change so much between now and the time you are 28. Now that you have wealth, you probably will be faced with even more choices. Stop worrying about this girl!! Link to comment
italianstalian Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 your the one who won!! i hate u! i bought like 20! what in the world are u gonna do w so much money! Link to comment
DropToZero Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 I kind of skipped the posts in between....but honestly, I dont know what's going on in your relationship exactly, but the fact that you just won 365 million...and the only thing you seem to be worried about is your girlfriend...I find you very honorable and trustworthy. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 but the fact that you just won 365 million...and the only thing you seem to be worried about is your girlfriend...I find you very honorable and trustworthy. I agree. You are a great man. Let us know when you hear from her. Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Hey all knock it off! The guy has won the lotto and your all trying to hold out your hands and beg for some of his cash?!?!?! Doc, people were kidding around...I think there was only one that may have been serious out of it all! I personally at least was kidding and even disclosed so in my post, I am quite happy where I am now, even if broke! There are far more important things in my life at least. But you do have the point about people becoming strange, which is why I suggested both a lawyer and a financial advisor...I have through past careers known a couple people whom won lots and it's advice I always give after seeing their situation. But anyway as for the girl, I certainly don't suggest he tell her he won, if she comes back on her own that is another thing though. There are plenty of woman out there yes, but if he has now become a millionaire, there are much fewer whom will be in it for the right reasons, so he needs to be careful (and if you get married....pre-nup!). Link to comment
cichlid Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Exactly what RayKay says...and just don't tell the girl. She won't come back to you for the right reasons. And...OMG congrats! Link to comment
lovecrazy Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 AGAIN I agree with RAYKAY! She is a very bright women! If I were I would claim, the money, and go hide with it for a while! go Travel, donate to charities as well! Its good to help people! And I agree God does work in mysterious ways! but you have a huge blessing! So go celebrate but also try and help others! You seem like humble person! Just go and have fun, you deserve it! And people stop asking the guy for money! He will probably help those who are UNABLE to help themselves! Have a great day everyone! Link to comment
redhook Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I am having a hard time believing you Ben. You win the powerball and don't claim your prize. I have been reading everywhere that you are a mystery. Link to comment
mouse_potato Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I am having a hard time believing you Ben. lol ditto. Link to comment
coollady1957 Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Winschica Everyone that was saying things about needing money, were just kidding, joking around with ben. I honestly dont think any one here would be silly enough to seriously ask the guy for money. I myself am wondering why he hasnt claimed it yet. I keep hearing on the news how no one has come forward yet. Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 Winschica Everyone that was saying things about needing money, were just kidding, joking around with ben. I honestly dont think any one here would be silly enough to seriously ask the guy for money. I myself am wondering why he hasnt claimed it yet. I keep hearing on the news how no one has come forward yet. Sometimes people take a while to get lawyers, financial advisors, and don't want to go public yet. Sometimes people also lose tickets.... Link to comment
coollady1957 Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I was thinking maybe he didnt win the big jackpot (365 mil ) , but won one of the smaller Nebraska prizes. Just a thought. Take a look at this, which was at the bottom of his original post. link removed And pay attention to the fifth paragraph. I dont mean to sound so skeptical about his claim. IF you think about it, he never said he won the BIG jackpot. He just said he won the lottery , period. Winning the lottery could mean as little as winning $3 . Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 LOL, True! I had a friend whom pulled that trick once just to get everyone riled up...she just won another ticket! Link to comment
Dako Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 I work at a company that produces lottery systems and equipment. Somehow I'm amused by this thread in more ways than one! Link to comment
ben71683 Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 LOL, True! I had a friend whom pulled that trick once just to get everyone riled up...she just won another ticket! and I'm taking it easy plus yesterday was a holiday and I couldn't claim. Link to comment
ben71683 Posted February 21, 2006 Author Share Posted February 21, 2006 I was thinking maybe he didnt win the big jackpot (365 mil ) , but won one of the smaller Nebraska prizes. Just a thought. Take a look at this, which was at the bottom of his original post. link removed And pay attention to the fifth paragraph. I dont mean to sound like so skeptical about his claim. IF you think about it, he never said he won the BIG jackpot. He just said he won the lottery , period. Winning the lottery could mean as little as winning $3 . and I'm getting some things in line.. and yes I won the big on.. I'm taking cash option so I will get a 125 million lump sum after taxes. If I took the 365 I would get about 256 million in annunity over 30 years. Prize payment breakdowns on on the site link removed Link to comment
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