Has anyone seen my libido?

[hilary19]

I appear to have lost it.

 

I'm a healthy 19 year old girl with a gorgeous boyfriend. I just never feel in the mood for sex. I'm always too tired, or just not in the slightest bit interested.

 

What should I do? My boyfriend is starting to take it personally.

[Mrocza]

Ahhh I recently had the same problem. I couldn't help it either. I just wasn't "in the mood".

 

Have patience. Get your boyfriend to try harder to get you there. Try to be in control of your sex life. If you feel in control you might rekindle your sex drive.

 

If he tries hard enough to get you in the mood, you will be You may not want to, but it's not like you don't enjoy it!

[the yang to the worlds yin]

it may be psychological, any problems with your relationship lately?

[annie24]

Have you seen a doctor? You may be sick, or be depressed. I think you should see a doctor first, make sure that everything is physically ok with you.

[kate111]

The pill makes me lose my sex drive.

[annie24]

Very good point! If you are one form of b.c., you may try switching to another pill.

 

No point to birthcontrol pills if they just make you lose your desire.....

[DN]

I think you should start to find your lost sex drive before you have to find a lost boyfriend. There are decisions that you can make here - this is not a matter completely out of your control. Get help from a doctor and make sure that you let your boyfriend know that you are doing so and why. Putting a burden on him to solve this problem may not be a good idea.

[Jeffe]

Too tired? Perhaps it could be your diet. Are you eating healthily? Getting a balanced diet with a lot of fruits keeps me feeling energetic. Staying away from fast foods also helps.

[hilary19]

I am on the pill. I'll make an appointment with the doctor after Christmas, and make sure my diet is healthy in the meantime. It's reassuring to know it's a common problem!

[annie24]

I am on the pill. I'll make an appointment with the doctor after Christmas, and make sure my diet is healthy in the meantime. It's reassuring to know it's a common problem!

 

yes, it is a VERY common problem. You may want to switch pills. Talk to your doctor. And talk to your bf, make sure he understands that it isn't him

[MelodyCalls]

I'd think potential causes are: pill, diet and exercise. When my g/f went on the pill, it completely destroyed her libido. It wasn't a good time for us, but once she was off it things returned to normal.

[kate111]

Sometimes ALL brands of pill will do it to someone (that is what my gyno told me).

[Shadows Light]

Yep.. The Pill did it for me too. Totally made me lose my LIBIDO. arrggh.

Haven't been on the pill in YEARS. Well.. found out we had fertility problems and whoooo hoooo.. no need for contraceptives. Hmmm Mixed blessing. Always have to find that silver lining. LOL.

 

Anyway, I'm at the point in my life where I NEED to do something again for contraceptives...and NOPE.. don't want to lose my LIBIDO... I just FOUND the darn thing again!!!

 

For you... Go to your Gyno and see about getting switched over. Diet/excerise and plenty of rest should help also.

[kate111]

If you are vegetarian make sure you are getting enough iron. Eat legumes.

[Serendipity1607307077]

I find that my libido is lower too but I guess that has an element of "giving up" because my partner never wants to...

 

Just keep a healthy diet and do regular exercise.. it will help you get rid of any depression you have and also will increase your stamina in the sack.

 

And stay positive!

[darkblue]

I'm always too tired, or just not in the slightest bit interested.

 

The pill was a good thing to pick up on.

But I want to pick up on this.

 

Stress can be a major factor in libdo.

Are you under any more stress than normal?

[MissJones]

You can have some of mine, I think I have too much. I'd gladly offer some ;-) You'll definitely find it somewhere around age 30.

[Shadows Light]

MISSJONES... You've hit the SEX KITTEN years... Aye.. somewhere in your 30's the libido comes to the forefront big time

[MissJones]

MISSJONES... You've hit the SEX KITTEN years... Aye.. somewhere in your 30's the libido comes to the forefront big time yeah! I've always considered myself a very sexual person but it's getting almost unbearable. My New Years resolution is to find myself a boyfriend to wear out ;-) At least I can get it whenever I want it

[ShySoul]

A lowered sex drive could simple be a matter of stress. Contrary to what certain aspects of the media want us to believe, not everyone is in constant need of sex. Sometimes you just don't feel like sex and thats perfectly fine. There is way more to life and a successful, happy relationship then sex. Any guy should be understanding and just happy to be with the person he loves.

[Shadows Light]

Hillary... have you tried diet/exercise. Lower your sugar intake and up the protein. Women usually don't get enough protein. Get a good multi-vitamin. Drink lots of water. And hit the gym. Get plenty of rest.

 

I notice that when I go to the gym regularly and take care of myself. The happy hormones kick up a notch or two. You feel better about yourself and with the endorphins kicking in you libido perks up.

 

If your not eating properly, not getting rest, stressed etc. You tend to feel sluggish and your libido will drop.