zrehman Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 It's Day3. I told her clearly "Get out of my life forever" and "I will call you if I feel like doing it" and "I wasn't kidding about the get out of my life forever" and "maybe one day I'll talk to you again...maybe", so I wonder if she is stupid enough to call me just to wish me a happy new year's eve? Still, she hasn't texted me so I guess it was nothing important. I hope she has a horrible new year's eve. haha .. congrats my friend! What time did she call? Well I hope my ex also has a horrible New Year's Eve Link to comment
SighSob Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 2 hours ago, which means 2.30 pm where I live Link to comment
zrehman Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 2 hours ago, which means 2.30 pm where I live She must be missing you. Way to stay strong. You have the upper hand now ... don't lose it! I think she will call or text you again very soon... maybe not today, but soon. Link to comment
SighSob Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Nah not really...she's got a crush on another guy. Oh well, I hope she's already snapped out of attraction but I don't think that's a possibility lol! Anyways, I hope I don't get too drunk tonight...I want to keep NC till I die. I don't want to lose my dignity again... Link to comment
Seymore Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hey buddy ... I think NC is still the right thing to do. I mean, you already said that she has done this stuff before ... so she is used to this cycle of trying to get you back into her grips. If she really loves you, you will know, and since you are having doubts about contacting her ... I don't think you should ... let her work on it some more. Just remember the pain she has caused you ... don't allow yourself to get sucked into it and than start again on DAY 1! Be strong! Your doing great! Also, how long has it been since NC since she called? Thanks, man. It's been oh....1 day since she called. Little over 1 day. But she e-mailed me yesterday morning too. I'm still coming to grips with the fact that she is no good for me. I have these weak moments (not so weak that I WANT to call though), and then I realized that I deserve better. It's like I don't want her to forget about me and move on, but I also don't want to be with her because I'll be miserable again. This was an emotionally abusive relationship and her issues are not going to be fixed in a matter of a couple of weeks. Link to comment
Seymore Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 DAY 3 I feel a bit better today and last night because I talked to my best friend on ENA: helloladies21 .. and he made me see things differently. I started breaking down last night and I started thinking of all the lovey dovey things about my ex even the sex (which was amazing ahaha) ... I had a moment like that, too last night. I fixed it quick by watching porn. Sounds nasty, but after having only the ex in my sexual life/fantasies for the last year (I literally never even thought of a another woman while dating her), I needed to turn those fantasies elsewhere, and porn was something I quit watching once I met her. It helped me realize there ARE other women out there. Not that I want to date a porn star, but it helped me feel like a GUY again...I felt like I was washing off all the helping her purse shop, waiting for her to get a manicure, sitting around while she picks out a wardrobe... I talked to my friend - he's got this perspective on relationships that I almost want, he doesn't take them so seriously for the first year. He does everything he wants and his girlfriend does what she wants, but they're committed to each other and do some things together. He still says that if she were to leave him, he'd find someone else in a few weeks, no big deal. It's like he's got this perfect balance of caring and not caring. Guess it came from experience, because he's had some really messed up gf's. Link to comment
zrehman Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Thanks, man. It's been oh....1 day since she called. Little over 1 day. But she e-mailed me yesterday morning too. I'm still coming to grips with the fact that she is no good for me. I have these weak moments (not so weak that I WANT to call though), and then I realized that I deserve better. It's like I don't want her to forget about me and move on, but I also don't want to be with her because I'll be miserable again. This was an emotionally abusive relationship and her issues are not going to be fixed in a matter of a couple of weeks. Ah man. I feel like breaking down today too cause of New Years. But I brought 3 New Years together with her and 4 years of pain! So I'm glad I'm not bringing in the New Year with miss evil. Link to comment
Seymore Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Ah man. I feel like breaking down today too cause of New Years. But I brought 3 New Years together with her and 4 years of pain! So I'm glad I'm not bringing in the New Year with miss evil. That's actually a good way to think of it. Man, that way of thinking will give you strength...I'm glad you said that, because I remember the last New Year's Eve we spent together. I picked her up from the airport (she just flew back from seeing her family) and took her to my place, where I made a "Welcome home" sign for her and decorated my place with streamers and balloons. She walked in and her reaction was a lot less than I expected. She smiled and said thanks like it was something I'd been doing for her every day for the previous month. I mean, that's polite, but I felt like she really didn't care. I think tonight I'm gonna sleep through New Year's, like I used to. Grab a bottle of wine and celebrate a new beginning Link to comment
zrehman Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 That's actually a good way to think of it. Man, that way of thinking will give you strength...I'm glad you said that, because I remember the last New Year's Eve we spent together. I picked her up from the airport (she just flew back from seeing her family) and took her to my place, where I made a "Welcome home" sign for her and decorated my place with streamers and balloons. She walked in and her reaction was a lot less than I expected. She smiled and said thanks like it was something I'd been doing for her every day for the previous month. I mean, that's polite, but I felt like she really didn't care. I think tonight I'm gonna sleep through New Year's, like I used to. Grab a bottle of wine and celebrate a new beginning Yea man same here! I did so much for her on New Years and she gets happy in the moment and after that passes she turns into the witch that she is. I mean we did have some great times in the past but a lot of it is now clouded with all the negatives I can think of. She definitely used me and took me for granted. I hope she gets a taste of her own medicine and has a horrible New Years Eve celebration! Link to comment
kiwi24 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Its the end of day 2 for me and it was must easier for me today. I was so upset yesterday that all I could do was cry. But today I talked to good friends...n i talked to a new guy... but still I hurt for him so instead of calling him I washed my SUV...boy it took a long time. but literally washing all the dirt off felt like washing all the BS off me built up from my ex. I decided not to sit home and mope. My ex is going to bars and partying so I can enjoy myself too...I'm going out of town with a friend for a couple of days. IT's a nice get away... First new year's in two years I won't spend with him...oh well...his loss... Happy New Year's everyone!! Link to comment
cookiedough1 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 God, I'm suffering. It's been NC day 5 i believe. Maybe it's because it's the end of the year and it's hard not to reminisce, but I'm feeling more down than yesterday and the day before. I know that towards the end of our relationship, I was more needy and clingy because I could sense something was wrong. I wish I could show him that's not the real me (I guess that's where NC comes in). I know a part of me is doing NC to hope that he has time apart from me and perhaps we will have a shot. I know he wants to be friends even at the present moment, but I can't do it. How can people switch from wanting to being lovers to being friends that quickly?? Gosh, sorry for rambling.... I hope this all gets better. Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Its the end of day 2 for me and it was must easier for me today. I was so upset yesterday that all I could do was cry. But today I talked to good friends...n i talked to a new guy... but still I hurt for him so instead of calling him I washed my SUV...boy it took a long time. but literally washing all the dirt off felt like washing all the BS off me built up from my ex. I decided not to sit home and mope. My ex is going to bars and partying so I can enjoy myself too...I'm going out of town with a friend for a couple of days. IT's a nice get away... First new year's in two years I won't spend with him...oh well...his loss... Happy New Year's everyone!! Hey hun! Well it looks like your picking yourself up hun! Just gotta take baby steps all the way! I'm gonna stay in tonight and hang out with the family! hehe Have a good get away and hope you realize you deserve better, because I know you do! Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 God, I'm suffering. It's been NC day 5 i believe. Maybe it's because it's the end of the year and it's hard not to reminisce, but I'm feeling more down than yesterday and the day before. I know that towards the end of our relationship, I was more needy and clingy because I could sense something was wrong. I wish I could show him that's not the real me (I guess that's where NC comes in). I know a part of me is doing NC to hope that he has time apart from me and perhaps we will have a shot. I know he wants to be friends even at the present moment, but I can't do it. How can people switch from wanting to being lovers to being friends that quickly?? Gosh, sorry for rambling.... I hope this all gets better. Wow hun - we are in the same page. My ex went from wanting to be lovers to being friends as well ... she gave me the, "I want to focus on my career" talk ... So I'm giving her what she wants and that's me moving on and she can figure out what she wants. Read my signature quote ... I firmly believe in it. Cause if my ex finds someone else and they have a great relationship ... than I know me and her were not meant to be. And for me and you ... there are a BUNCH of people out there that are meant for us and will treat us a lot better than our ex's did. You deserve better! Link to comment
kiwi24 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Hey hun! Well it looks like your picking yourself up hun! Just gotta take baby steps all the way! I'm gonna stay in tonight and hang out with the family! hehe Have a good get away and hope you realize you deserve better, because I know you do! I'm actually staying home tonight n watching a movie. Then tomorrow morning i'm leaving town for a couple of days. The guy I talked to is a sweeth heart and I will be meeting him also on Friday... You remember to stay strong too. We all deserve better....it's going to be a new year tomorrow. only you can make it a good and a much better year for you. just remember the negativity is out of your life. Don't let it back in! new year, new begininng...even if it is alone Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 I'm actually staying home tonight n watching a movie. Then tomorrow morning i'm leaving town for a couple of days. The guy I talked to is a sweeth heart and I will be meeting him also on Friday... You remember to stay strong too. We all deserve better....it's going to be a new year tomorrow. only you can make it a good and a much better year for you. just remember the negativity is out of your life. Don't let it back in! new year, new begininng...even if it is alone I agree ... new beginnings!! YAY! Let's find someone we can celebrate 2010 with! hehe Link to comment
crab62 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 I agree ... new beginnings!! YAY! Let's find someone we can celebrate 2010 with! hehe yuck... I have no desire to ever get involved with your species again... no offense oh wait... yes I would like to get involved with your species... it will just have 4 legs and weigh about 1500lbs... a horse, LOL!! That's the only male I will be hooking up with in 2009 Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 yuck... I have no desire to ever get involved with your species again... no offense oh wait... yes I would like to get involved with your species... it will just have 4 legs and weigh about 1500lbs... a horse, LOL!! That's the only male I will be hooking up with in 2009 hahaha - Understandable and I can't blame ya! Link to comment
crab62 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 hahaha - Understandable and I can't blame ya! haha thanks for the understanding!! are you going out tonight? Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 haha thanks for the understanding!! are you going out tonight? No ma'am ... just staying in with the family. How bout yourself? Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Crab62 - I'm actually gonna be in Chicago from Feb - May ... Keep that in mind hehe Link to comment
crab62 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 No ma'am ... just staying in with the family. How bout yourself? nice to be with family. me... nope. I have some wine and some fabric to cut (sewing)... so I might do that. I'm boiling some water now to make some yummy pasta... so that's about it. Tomorrow I plan to go to my family's and cut alot of fabric, haha... I make quilts and am starting a new quilt... so cutting takes ALOT of time, but right now that time taken up is good for me. The most exciting thing happened today though... I have an appt to see a horse on Saturday!! I'm so excited. Not sure if I will buy it... I might lease it for a while first, but it's exciting nevertheless. Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 nice to be with family. me... nope. I have some wine and some fabric to cut (sewing)... so I might do that. I'm boiling some water now to make some yummy pasta... so that's about it. Tomorrow I plan to go to my family's and cut alot of fabric, haha... I make quilts and am starting a new quilt... so cutting takes ALOT of time, but right now that time taken up is good for me. The most exciting thing happened today though... I have an appt to see a horse on Saturday!! I'm so excited. Not sure if I will buy it... I might lease it for a while first, but it's exciting nevertheless. I never knew you could lease a horse! Who would of thought! Link to comment
crab62 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 I never knew you could lease a horse! Who would of thought! oh yeah... leasing can be very beneficial to both parties. For the owner, leasing helps pay for boarding, as well as the horse get's ridden much more.... which is really the key thing. For the person leasing, they get to ride the horse as much as they want (usually), and they don't incur the entire overhead cost and responsibility of owning a horse. It's a very nice setup. Lots of people lease out their horses cause they don't have the time to ride them (and horses "do" need to be ridden)...and leasing gives the horse good riding time, yet the owner still gets to keep them.... and the person leasing... get to ride alot, spending alot of time with the horse, but yet doesn't have to worry about vet bills, and boarding costs, etc. Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 oh yeah... leasing can be very beneficial to both parties. For the owner, leasing helps pay for boarding, as well as the horse get's ridden much more.... which is really the key thing. For the person leasing, they get to ride the horse as much as they want (usually), and they don't incur the entire overhead cost and responsibility of owning a horse. It's a very nice setup. Lots of people lease out their horses cause they don't have the time to ride them (and horses "do" need to be ridden)...and leasing gives the horse good riding time, yet the owner still gets to keep them.... and the person leasing... get to ride alot, spending alot of time with the horse, but yet doesn't have to worry about vet bills, and boarding costs, etc. Why do horses need to be ridden? Link to comment
crab62 Posted January 1, 2009 Share Posted January 1, 2009 Why do horses need to be ridden? well I guess I should rephrase that... they need exercise, and most should have at least an hour of outside exercise a day. Given that, most owners utilize that hour by riding them. ... but you can turnout your horse or let him run wild in the arena, (which is always fun) or you can ride him Horses are very prone to stomach disease if they are not exercised. It's very important that they move around alot. If you ever part of a stable... you will see people there daily and always on the weekends. I would love to have a home with enough acres to have a horse in my back yard... but I don't think that dream is going to happen Link to comment
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