hamidsoussi3 Posted January 13, 2020 Share Posted January 13, 2020 I met this guy 2 months after i broke up with my ex with whom i lived a wonderful story, so i wasn't looking for anything serious (i was heart broken). So i met this guy at the aeroport and he helped me with my suitcase. We stayed in touch and went on several dates from time to time but it wasn't romantic. Until one night after a movie date, he tells me that he likes me and would like to get to know me better to see if we could be together but with no rush. I liked the idea since i was just starting to get over my ex and i liked that there was no pressure. Everything was fine and i started to like him because i felt like he was honest with me and he showed me his interest in me. After a couple of months i got a job offer 4 hours away from the city where we lived, i told him and he had no special reaction to it. I tried talking to him about long distance relationships and how it would affect us, his only response was we'll see when we get there. I wasn't convinced that he would make any effort and i didn't want to be hurt again so broke up with him 2 weeks before i moved. I decided to break up because he is a very secretive man, he can push me out of his life easily when he has problems or something going on so i decided i didn't want to live that way. We stayed in touch texting from time to time. A few days before i moved, he came to my place and asked for a second chance saying that he just didn't know how to express himself but he is willing to try. I gave him his second chance and everything was great again. we'd see each other on the weekends and we'd talk everyday on the phone. Things were so great that we even talked about mariage and meeting the parents. One weird thing happened after the mariage discussion, he told me about his last relationship where he was in love and lasted 3 years, said that he is trying to get over everything and that he is almost there bust he still hasn't forgot everything. I was shocked and disappointed that he would tell me this after such a long time, he explained that him telling me about her proved that he trusts me and that he really wants to build something with me because he doesn't talk about it to anyone. RIght after that i met his sister. Then he went on a trip for a week where he didn't talk to me much saying that he had issues to solve and was really vague about it. I got angry about his lack of communication and we argued a lot he said he wanted time to think about our relationship to be sure that he really wants to be with me, and that he would like to do that alone. That hurt me a lot, we had a weekend planned at his place i decided to cancel it. 2 days before the weekend he called me asking me to come saying that it would be good to see each other and talk. I went, and i noticed that he talked a lot on the phone to one person in particular "M". He would talk to her in front of me and it seemed like a friendly conversation, but it lasts way longer than a friendly conversation and she calls him about 10 times a day even at night (really late) he answers everytime. On that weekend i was looking for something in his drawers and i found a book make by this "M". It was a birthday gift to him, she wrote reasons why she loved him, and why he is an amazing person but also all their good memories together. That's when i put 2 and 2 together and concluded that she was his ex that he talked to me about and that she was the girl that calls him all day everyday. I decided to ask him directly for the truth, he denied everything saying that "M" was never his girlfriend, and that the ex he talked to me about was now married with a kid. But i am sure that he lied. Now he says he needs to think about our relationship to see if we really are good for each other and he said he would make more efforts to make things work because he doesn't want to regret anything. i am scared that he will realise that we shouldn't be together when i am still willing to try harder for it to work. I know that if he opens we would be great together. I am not ready for another heart break. What do you think ? (Something i forgot to say at first when we just met "M" didn't call at least not as much so i never noticed it, then i noticed after a few months someone named "M" on his phone calling a lot, on the last weekend we saw each other there was no name registered with the number but i am sure it's the same person) Link to comment
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