MrIncredible Posted July 19, 2019 Share Posted July 19, 2019 Hello all, I'm new to these forums. I've been trying to seek possible answers as to what is going on lately, was hoping anyone could give me some input or advice (it's either this or talking to a therapist). The past week or so, I keep having consistent dreams about a particular ex that I dated from 4 years ago. She was my first love and first real relationship, we were 19 at the time and dated for almost 3 years so it was pretty serious. The reason we broke up was that I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life at the time and felt lost. I became unhappy, depressed, and generally confused. Because of this, it greatly impacted our relationship because I was neglecting her and wasn't being the partner that she deserved. She initiated the break up and fairly quickly moved on to an older guy with money and a house who promised to provide for her, and we never spoke again after (I tried reaching out months later, but she ignored any type of communication I initiated so I let it go). I went through hell and back to get over that breakup and to pull myself back on my own two feet, and I did just that. I went to college, landed myself a good paying job that I'm passionate about and love doing, just bought myself a newer car, met a few different women here and there, and been hitting the gym like a mad man where I am in the best physical shape I have ever been in. I feel happy. I rarely, if ever, even think about her due to how busy I am and the fact that I've moved on. Lately though, I keep having these dreams of either old memories/events that happened in the past, or made up ones like us living together, going on dates, and having actual conversations. These dreams will interpret exactly what she looked like and the way she acted and moved, they feel so real that I will wake up and find my heart racing. Does anyone have an explanation as to why this is happening to me? Why now, especially when I rarely even think about her? Link to comment
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