Butterflyxx Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 So my boyfriend last night told me that about a year ago, he was in a dark place and he didn't feel very good about himself (low self-esteem) etc, and to make himself feel better, he got into contact with his ex-girlfriend, in hopes of her falling for him, to put her down and reject her. (We were together at this point). Back then, he told me he was in contact with her because her father died, and he was messaging her to see how she was. However, he started to like her Instagram posts with her cleavage showing etc, and I told him back then that I did not feel comfortable with it, in which he responded that he liked the picture by accident. However, he told me last night that he lied about it, and in fact, he did it in attempt to get an ego boost to see if she liked him back. After I found out about it, he blocked her on every social media site, and has not spoken to her since. I feel very betrayed knowing this happened, and that was his intention. I recognize that it was a year ago, but he lied to me all this time about it. I don't know whether I believe him in the fact that he was in a 'bad place', so in order to get some satisfaction, he wanted to reject someone... especially not his ex-girlfriend, who at the time was grieving over her father passing, it is a cruel thing to want to do, regardless of the circumstances of the death. I inquired about it, and he told me that it wasn't exactly about his ex-girlfriend, and that he wanted to reject a girl by going in a club, flirting with her, and then rejecting her. Which, in my mind, does not make any sense. I do not know why someone would want to hurt an innocent individual. I feel like I cannot trust him, and despite the fact that he has told me he has changed (he has in many ways), and that he does not feel this way anymore. For example, we see each other most nights, we go out on dates a lot, he does not ignore me, he has stopped talking to other girls and liking their pictures. I can genuinely tell he cares about me, and all of my family members absolutely love him. I just cannot shake off the uneasiness of the situation. I am not sure whether he is telling the truth, and in fact, he did want her to like him so he could reject her. Yet, I cannot see his logic in that, especially as he had a girlfriend, and at the time they broke up over two years ago, so surely he was over the breakup? Or, he lied to me again, and in fact, he wanted to test the water to see if she had feelings and if so he would break up with me and go off with her. I am just confused as to whether I should let it go as it was back in October 2016 when he was talking to her, or if this is a sign of bigger things, and I cannot, in fact, trust him. What are your thoughts on the situation? Thanks in advance:nightmare: Link to comment
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