Babbsi Posted February 6, 2018 Share Posted February 6, 2018 Little back story I have an 8 y/o daughter and 7 y/o son. My ex and I divorced almost 4 years ago. He is now engaged to a wonderful woman who is great with my kids and he appears happy as well. I have had a few relationships that have ended. My kids have met 2 of the guys and the relationships were no longer than a year. I DO NOT want to remarry and I’ve decided to not introduce boyfriends to my children. The other day I was walking to my car after a little league practice and it was raining. The kids left with Dad and his Fiancé and I walked alone to my car. The other day my 8y/o daughter said she felt sorry for me when I was walking to my car in the rain. I said why? She said because your alone. I sorta laughed and said, baby mommy went home and then a movie with my friend Jen. I’m alone but not lonely. Then she started crying and said but we are your only family here. (My entire family lives out of state) I told her that she and her brother are all the family I need to be happy and that we will make a greater effort to see my family in Texas. She said mommy why don’t you find someone and get married. I like having us together in our house I don’t need to be married now to be happy. Someday maybe mommy will be married but I’m happy having you and brother alllll to myself. My son has also said things like this which I don’t think is healthy. I’ve said to them that their job is not to worry about mommy that it is my job to take care and worry about them. Still it is little comfort. My little girl is watching me regularly asking if I’m ok and what I’m feeling if I’m happy etc. I must look pathetic to them and I need to turn this around. As an FYI I have friends, I’m gainfully employed, own a home and love being their mother. I’m very active with my babies and wee do all sorts of fun things together. I’m not laid out on the couch... however, I am depressed and do feel alone at times which is natural. I must be giving them bad vibes ugh... I need words of advise about this maybe even encouragement. I’m doing the very best I can for my kids and I feel that I’m failing because they pity me. Link to comment
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