Sabrina918 Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 Frustrated. 28 dating a 40 year old man for over 8 months. We got into an argument that set the break up into motion, his future business partner, a female, sleeping in his bed. From that it became about our future, respect he has for me, the fact that I don't do well under stress (worst trait he said there was in me) and he suddenly at dinner one night told me he cannot make happy, wants to focus on his career (he was with another girl weeks later) and just plain ignored me for a week and pretended to be busy. For a month he strung me along, treated me horribly, took days to respond (same guy who was communicative all throughout the relationship). After a month he said he wants to see me. I haven't had too many relationships so at that moment I didn't realize it's the big break up one but it was... and the biggest bs of all "I love you and think we should stay in touch and see where the future takes us" Someone please explain to me what that is. Such a cowardly way out. This coming from the same man who 3 weeks before the break up insisted on meeting my whole family and professing I'm his greatest love of greatest heartbreak. I think I deserved more after all that but don't expect it and have blocked him off my social media and texts. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 He's a phony, simple as that. He didn't mean anything he said and his love was fickle. He can go from one woman to the next in the blink of an eye. You dodged a bullet. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 He wants to keep you around for sex. He does not care about or respect you. Period! Why are you still in contact with this guy? Wasn't the partner in his bed enough? Please seek counselling. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 Most likely he wants you to think he's considering reconciling in case he wants to get some sex from you. My ex wanted us to keep in touch, but he meant that literally lol. He wanted to have sex but not get back together. Beware of this. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 You have gotten A LOT of good advice on this guy. How is he able to contact you if he is blocked? Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 He wants you as a backup plan. Don't fall for it. Link to comment
Sabrina918 Posted January 8, 2018 Author Share Posted January 8, 2018 You have gotten A LOT of good advice on this guy. How is he able to contact you if he is blocked? So I've blocked him on social media down to freakin LinkedIn and today came to find a card sent to me at my PO box. I don't even know how it got there so quick bc I checked Saturday night when I went to pick up packages. I think he's just trying to bother me and keep me from moving on. Link to comment
Sabrina918 Posted January 8, 2018 Author Share Posted January 8, 2018 You have gotten A LOT of good advice on this guy. How is he able to contact you if he is blocked? He's a phony, simple as that. He didn't mean anything he said and his love was fickle. He can go from one woman to the next in the blink of an eye. You dodged a bullet. Thank you. I am starting to see it through therapy. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 Good for you! Have you told him to leave you alone? Link to comment
Annia Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 He's trying to keep you on the back burner just in case it doesn't work with the other girls or he feels bored. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 You're a back-up plan for when he's bored. Puts you on the back burner "just in case". Don't give him the satisfaction. Link to comment
Sabrina918 Posted January 9, 2018 Author Share Posted January 9, 2018 Good for you! Have you told him to leave you alone? I sent him a text saying I'm done with him, don't want my items back, and that for the first time in 4 months I'm finally ok with letting go for good and he should do the same because he's dating a colleague of mine in the same dental field who works within 3 miles of me. I think he himself noticed the removal of the social media stuff. I'll never knowif he replied to my text because I blocked him and just today changed my number and have already blocked him from the new one also. The only place left is email and of course my po box. I don't think he cares to respond for response I think he does this to scare me and intimidate me. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 I think people say "let's stay in touch" or "let's see" for a few reasons. Breaking up with someone is never enjoyable and if the breakup isn't over a big, dramatic issue, they may try to "soften the blow" by saying something wishy-washy rather than, " I never want to see you again, starting right now." That's easy to say when someone's cheated on you, but harder to do when the other person hasn't done anything "wrong." It also gives them the option to return in case they find they catch feelings again in the future. Edited to add: Sure, they could catch feelings in the future again ("let's see what happens"), but I wouldn't count on it or wait by the phone. Anything could happen in the future. Aliens could land on Earth tomorrow. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 Why haven't you blocked the email? Link to comment
Sabrina918 Posted January 9, 2018 Author Share Posted January 9, 2018 I don't know how to with yahoo Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 https://help.yahoo.com/kb/SLN16025.html Google: how to block on Yahoo Mail. Link to comment
Sabrina918 Posted January 9, 2018 Author Share Posted January 9, 2018 https://help.yahoo.com/kb/SLN16025.html Google: how to block on Yahoo Mail. Awesome! Thanks dear. Officially blocked everywhere. Too bad I can't move! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 Good for you! If he continues to bother you, you can go after him for harassment Link to comment
Everlong13 Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 In my opinion when people say things like this it's to a) ease their conscience b) have their cake and eat it i.e. have you in their life in some capacity c) keep you hanging on as a back up Link to comment
Sabrina918 Posted January 10, 2018 Author Share Posted January 10, 2018 He sent pizzas to my office today. And then paid for it. Was super odd. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 Some guys send flowers, others send pizzas, lol.... Does he have any official business with your office where he would send the whole office pizzas, or he just sent a pizza to you? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 Sorry to hear this. Don't let this jerk play you.:moody: Translation: stay in my orbit for booty call and such "I love you and think we should stay in touch and see where the future takes us" Link to comment
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