Vulpix Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 Me and my ex broke up dec 2016, we were together for 6 years and he was emotionally abusive. When we broke up our friend told me i was doing the right thing and should respect myself, she asked me if i wanted her to not speak to him again, I ofcourse told her I couldn’t ask that of her. Last year now she broke up with her boyfriend from 8 years and Became lonely, started to rely on alcohol to feel happy, so she spent her nights going out drinking with my ex, He asked her out and she told me she said no for a few reasons, for the way he treated me and the way he’d now act around me Were two very big ones. But a week later she got drunk before the night out and encouraged him to stay the night, they had sex. She claimed she felt so disgusted she wanted to give up drinking, but then went to his birthday do, a few days later and got drunk with him and cuddled up to him. Its after all this, she told me she couldnt keep it in anymore, i told her i think she has a drinking problem and needs to stop, in order to respect herself, She said she agreed but didnt change a thing. I told her it actually upset me shes still allowing him to flirt and try to get into her knickers, and shes acting like shes never heard of flirting before. I told her i feel like seeing him is risking our friendship, and shes told me she understood but to back off her life I told know what else to do, i dont want to walk away Link to comment
DaisyMayPorter Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 You are ok with her being with him? I would not be friends with her. Your ex-boyfriend of SIX years is off limits to any of your friends. She is not being a friend. Link to comment
lilyv Posted January 4, 2018 Share Posted January 4, 2018 She's not a true friend. I would be finished with her. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 She a drunk and not a friend. Be done with her. Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 Breaks every code there is out there. She prioritizes one night flings with him over her entire friendship with you. Stand up and say no. Be done. Link to comment
Imho Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 She sounds as though she is emotionally abusive towards you too. She is NOT a friend and I wonder if she told you about this because she felt bad or because she wanted to hurt you. She hasn't stopped hanging out with him so I'm thinking she wanted to hurt you. They both are emotionally abusive. People are not friends just because you have known them a long time. She wouldn't be a friend of mine. Link to comment
wom360 Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 Did you dump him or did he dump you? If you left him or if it was mutual then he’s fair game. If he left you then she should stay away from him. Basically you don’t get to dump him and then get all butt hurt when he moves on with whoever. Link to comment
Imho Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 Did you dump him or did he dump you? If you left him or if it was mutual then he’s fair game. If he left you then she should stay away from him. Basically you don’t get to dump him and then get all butt hurt when he moves on with whoever. Would you have sex with your friend's ex? Link to comment
yatsue Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 Did you dump him or did he dump you? If you left him or if it was mutual then he’s fair game. If he left you then she should stay away from him. Basically you don’t get to dump him and then get all butt hurt when he moves on with whoever. Welp, according to this logic, OP you should be ok with your ex possibly sleeping with your mother too. If you have any sisters, then they're also fair game -_- Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 Did you dump him or did he dump you? If you left him or if it was mutual then he’s fair game. If he left you then she should stay away from him. Basically you don’t get to dump him and then get all butt hurt when he moves on with whoever. Don't agree. It's sleazy! Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 Did you dump him or did he dump you? If you left him or if it was mutual then he’s fair game. If he left you then she should stay away from him. Basically you don’t get to dump him and then get all butt hurt when he moves on with whoever.No, that's a rule you should have left in high school. Friends don't date or sleep with your former love connections. Who broke up with whom isn't really relevant. Link to comment
Longview01 Posted January 5, 2018 Share Posted January 5, 2018 Did you dump him or did he dump you? If you left him or if it was mutual then he’s fair game. If he left you then she should stay away from him. Basically you don’t get to dump him and then get all butt hurt when he moves on with whoever. Absolute nonsense As for the topic, personally I stopped speaking to a good friend of mine years ago when I found out they tried it on with an ex of mine and never bothered with him again, its a line you do not cross Link to comment
melody147 Posted January 17, 2018 Share Posted January 17, 2018 im so sorry this happened to you. cut off that friend. she doesn't deserve your friendship or even good vibes. begone evil witch -.- Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 17, 2018 Share Posted January 17, 2018 They belong together. You are too good a friend and gf to associate with these types.Me and my ex broke up dec 2016, we were together for 6 years and he was emotionally abusive.But a week later she got drunk before the night out and encouraged him to stay the night, they had sex. Link to comment
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