West Wind Posted November 13, 2017 Share Posted November 13, 2017 Hello. I will try to exercise brevity as much as I possibly can. I consider her a "work friend" if that makes any type of sense. We talk a lot as we work -- about nearly anything, really. Verily, there's no subject that is off limits between us. That's possibly due to us not being judgmental. We take our lunches/breaks together with two others pretty routinely. During lunch/work we talk and laugh, etc. We've known each other for a few years now, so we've had the opportunity to get to know each other a bit more intimately than the others. Anyhow, she seems to be intrigued that I am still single in my 30s. Truthfully, I'm not the marrying type; I'm fine with having casual flings here and there as I always have. She tells me about her marriage -- which, from what she has told me over the years, is still going strong. Kudos for that. However, lately, I've noticed a slight change. I am, at heart, a natural flirt, and I know where my boundaries are and I never have, and never will go beyond them. We flirt a bit, it's fun, yes, but I have always had a stern attitude that nothing will become of it; it's simply a fun way to pass the time for me. The change is that I've noticed her talking about her boobs and butt a lot more to me. Almost as if she wants me to validate their significance. Example: she tells me she has big boobs for a woman her size. I tell her I'm more of a butt man, then she tells me about the size and shape of her butt. I try to steer the conversation in a more appropriate direction, but she seems hellbent on getting something out of me. This type conversation escalated into something more, I fear. I went to her cubical where she was talking with a friend about a spreadsheet. I tossed her a few pieces of candy. Her friend noticed and laughed, saying that I should try her candy -- which she pulled out of her pocket and extended to me a caramel. The woman I gave the candy to snatches it, and eats it. They both laugh, and I told her that it was mine. The woman then opens her mouth, shows me the candy and says, "Come and get it." Her friend laughs and walks away. I jokingly try to take back my candy I put on the desk, but she grabs my hand and tries to prevent me from doing so. She wrestles with me a bit, then literally puts my fist onto her chest and whispers, "Let go of my boob," as she laughs. I drop everything and stop immediately. I play it off calmly and make an exit. Later, I'm making some copies in the print room when she stumbles in again. She's making fun of the situation earlier, and I tell her I don't want to hear anything about what happened. She smiles and comes over to where I'm standing, and is like, "Give me my stuff," as she forces her chest on my hands on the copier. I try to move them, but she continues to laugh and press her chest on me. I told her to get back to work, then she kicks me in my butt, laughing, then walks off. Something to understand before you comment: I AM NOT TAKING THIS ANY FURTHER. I AM AWARE OF WHAT CAN HAPPEN. IF THIS HAPPENS AGAIN, I WILL TELL HER TO STOP. Understand that I am confused like never before. I've flirted many times, but never have had this happen from any woman I've worked with. As a man, yes, it's flattering, but my morals conflict with this and I refuse to act on something that could destroy someone's life -- including mine -- and I'm not going to hate myself for it. My question is, why would she do this? Please, no immature answers because I am really confused at this point. Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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