RedCrayon360 Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 When it's someone you've not met before, or have just chatted to online (yet they've told you where they work), just wondering if it's okay to go to their work place to ask them out on a date? Reason I ask is it's something I'm considering doing. Basically I've been chatting to this handsome guy from Plenty Of Fish in the last couple of weeks. He seems very pleasant and we seem to have a lot of potential sexual chemistry. We've also chatted on WhatsApp and have had the odd brief phone call. It's probably worth mentioning that he did come across a bit strong near the beginning saying he'd love to go on holidays together, and would love to move in with me, although things have kinda fizzled out in the last few days and we've not spoken to each for almost a week. (Looking at his Facebook, he does seem to have been very busy and has liked the odd status of mine). He did also say that he hates it when people ghost, or ignore you, so would like to think if things did ever work out between us he wouldn't pull the disappearing act! I was also the last one to iniate a conversation through WhatsApp. Was, however, thinking that despite few days of silence that it might be the right time to ask him out on a date? I've really started to take a liking to him and was thinking of maybe turning up at his work and asking him out! He works as a hotel receptionist, so speaking to guests and members of the public is something that happens regularly I know I could do it over text, or the phone, but thought it might be a nice surprise to ask him out at work. Plus, despite the fact I get social anxiety talking to people, I actually prefer asking someone out in person, rather than through text, or over the phone (hate using the phone, lol). Do you think this would be creepy and has anyone else ever done this before? Trust me, don't want to make him feel uncomfortable or feel like I'm trying to stalk him - I'd also let him know that I want a very brief chat with him and check if it's okay. I get that when people are working that you need to respect their time and I totally understand that, which is why it would only be a very brief chat asking him out for a meal or something. It's also just that I haven't had much luck getting a date with someone in the last few months and I admit it's getting me down a bit and making me feel lonely. I just think sometimes there's too much reliance on texting/social media that people just don't always seem willing to want to meet in person face to face (aside from the fact most do have busy lives). Plus asking them out in person may descrease the chances of them ghosting/flaking out on a date. What do people think? And is this something you would ever do? (Edit: clearly I wouldn't do this if it's someone you've only ever exchanged the odd text or email with) Link to comment
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