Grass is greener dumper husband creeping back

[phoenixlyza7]

We have been separated for four months now and i went on limited contact since March bec i was friendzoned. I changed my number but gave him my email ad for bills and stuff. He initiated contact last month and it was fine bec it was official business but after that he started calling me by my petname and i found it uncomfortable. I went on NC until now but his emails piled up esp this month. I never replied bec i know that he is still with contact with the OW. Does this mean that their honeymoon period is over? Has the fog lifted? I just put him on spam last night. Any thoughts? His emails are just breadcrumbs, just my petname.

[Hollyj]

Are you considering taking this creep back, if he leaves his new gf?

[Carus]

Does this mean that their honeymoon period is over?

Yes.

Has the fog lifted?

No.

 

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[Clio]

Nothing has changed. You are still friendzoned. He is still in contact with the OW. Putting him on spam was the right decision.

[Lester]

Adultery follows standard patterns.

 

For infidelity to be meaningful [sic], there must be a victim. (You)

When you reject him, it not only exposes his disreputable partner to the light, but also his fears and shortcomings.

 

Not chasing/wanting eliminates the thrill.

This is why he/they move back in your direction.

[phoenixlyza7]

IF he makes changes and will put a lot of effort to make things right. But presently its just breadcrumb emails three times a week.

[phoenixlyza7]

What makes you say that the fog has not lifted yet?

[phoenixlyza7]

👍 it was flattering at first but now its is such a nuisance. Its not helping me heal.

[phoenixlyza7]

So this is just about control? Ego?

[phoenixlyza7]

My GIGS dumper is starting to reach out after 4 months of separation. We've been together for 10 yrs and i just discovered that he had been cheating on me for the last 2 yrs of our relationship (with different women). I went LC (limited contact) since March (bec i was friendzoned), changed my number, etc but i have to give him my email for official business stuff.

 

When he reached out through my email last month he started calling me by my petname and i can sense traces of regret and guilt. Just this month he emailed me 8 times with just my petname. i went on full NC (no contact) for the past two weeks because I know he is still seeing his current b**** who caused our separation. But still his emails persisted.

 

What's up with him? Is this bec their honeymoon stage is over and he is now undergoing the stages of grief?

[Hollyj]

She didn't cause the break, HE DID!!!!

 

Are you considering a reconciliation with someone who cheated on you - with multiple people - for TWO YEARS? Don't really understand why you haven't shut the "pet name" thing down.

[Capricorn3]

Quite frankly, I wouldn't care what's up with him. He made his choice and now I would make mine ... dump his cheating a$$ so fast he won't know what hit him and make sure he never steps over my door ever again. Ugh.

[Capricorn3]

Threads have been merged (Pertaining to same topic).

[phoenixlyza7]

I did last month. I told him that he made his choice so he does not have the right to call me that again. He went quiet for a week then he resumed with the emails again.

[johnnydanger]

Nothing has changed. You are still friendzoned. He is still in contact with the OW. Putting him on spam was the right decision.

Where can I buy me one of those crystal balls you are looking into?

[Hollyj]

Do you need to be in contact?

 

How could you possibly consider being with someone who cheated on you for two years, with multiple people? Where is your self respect?

 

The fact that he is calling you the names, again - while he has a gf - shows that he has zero respect for you both. What would ever make you think he had changed?????