xcookie7x Posted May 15, 2017 Share Posted May 15, 2017 Hi everyone. first off let me say i am sorry if this is long but i am going to put everything i think is necessary..because i am devastated and i need some real input into this. please be nice. i am emotionally fragile lately from life. lol... okay so i'm friends with this guy on fb. let's just call him Jon. I'm friends with Jon on facebook and he posts things that are pretty funny so i commented on one of his posts one day saying "haha you post the best stuff!" and later on that day i got a friend request from a guy let's just call him Bill. so Bill requests and I accept it. I start to comment on Billl's posts now seeing he's good friends with Jon. Then, Bill private messages me through the facebook chat and we start to talk. He opens up and tells me how he is usually rejected by women and nobody in his town will date him or is interested. How he is usually alone etc. and I say I know how he feels. So, time passes and we begin to talk every day. He is the one to take the initiative to message me. Then, he asks to call me. The phone call goes wonderful and he starts to call pretty frequently. We seem to have great chemistry honestly and he asks me questions and we relate on a lot of what he asks etc. So weeks turn into months and I ask him if he is ever going to see me. (As he brought up on the phone we need to hang out).. he says work is very busy (which he can work some pretty crazy hours at his job like getting home from the city doing deliveries at 3am..and I do know that much is truth however he does get a few days off here and there so not like he's busy 24/7 at his job..) and i say okay its no problem. he says he is going to try soon. so we still continue to talk every day. he says good morning beautiful and we talk through out the day. on the phone calls i talk to his parents. they become familiar with me by name after a while. they tease him saying i'm his girlfriend. and he will call me and ask "so.. how's your boyfriend?" joking around. which confuses me i never really know what he's getting at. he'll also joke around like for example if i say i do not want to do something he'll say "well tell them your boyfriend bill says you don't have to do it." so, after a while, i begin to take him more seriously. he starts to become a priority of all other guys and his personality and chemistry is my favorite. to the point where i saw potential for real love with him. we video chat too. and his brother sees me and says "hey is that her?" and he says yes. he tells me he has told all his family and friends and coworkers of me. his bday was a month ago and instead of going out he even called me on the phone and we talked all night.. and the saying good morning to me continues.. and it turns into 5 months now. so i am getting a bit frustrated because he really has become a priority in terms of my feelings. i haven't had such chemistry with someone in a very long time actually. on the phone time flies and we can talk for hours. and on video chat i ask him "so are you really coming to see me?" he jokes and says "im scared." so i say "what?" and he says "no im just kidding. yeah i'm coming." and we exchange addresses. he also calls me on the phone and gives me his netflix account randomly. it is a family account, the only people with profiles are him, his bro, and bros fiance. he tells me i should make my own profile. he also says when he comes to see me he will give me something from his grandpa that i can use for camping since he knows i love camping. so i say thank you that's so sweet and he says anytime.. so our last conversation we had before he disappeared i said "hey i know that i ask a lot but did you ever plan on coming to see me? because i like you a lot and i talk to you more than anyone. i know work can be tough with hours but just wanted to make sure." and he says "yes of course i want to! i'm trying, work has just really been killing me. i want to try a vacation soon so i''ll let u know asap." i say okay no prob...then, the next morning i message him saying good morning....and nothing....it has been 9 days now. and he hasn't even read my messages, let alone reply to them. we are still friends on facebook. he did not block or unfriend me. and he has made posts on his profile here or there,one of them being with two guy friends a few days ago so clearly he is not THAT busy.. the posts do not even have any likes on them except that one though. none whatsoever (he's not very popular at all or a player type and i'm not just saying that. he barely ever goes out. he would spend a majority of his time calling me).. i am just at a loss for words. i don't know what to do. and i miss him a lot. i miss his personality. and i just don't get it. he would talk to me every single day and i talked to his parents on the phone and we talked so often his fam knew me by name. and i had personal info like his netflix where i had my OWN profile on there. he would bring up us dating all the time and how he wanted a girlfriend and would call himself my boyfriend.. now he won't even bother to read my messages i have sent to him yet he has been online here or there and made some posts..he told me in the past if we ever stopped talking he would really miss me and that he cares for me.. i could really use some advice on how to handle this and perspective. he has always made it a point to read what i say and get back to me for the 5 months straight he talked to me. Also one of the last things I'd asked was if he was still really interested in me bc i wanted to be on the same page..and he said yes he is. he has never disappeared like this before for the entire time he'd talk and call me etc. and the way he left off seemed like we were totally fine. i mean he said he'd let me know asap then just goes poof. i looked on his facebook to see if for the 9 days he'd been gone he'd been hanging with any single girls, but the only people he seemed to hang with was two guy friends that were tagged. p.s. also let me just add he was never sexual with me. never asked for naked pictures. so it's not like he got a bunch of naked pictures or masturbated from me and was done with me. one time i sent him one pic of me in my new bathing suit and he told me i never have to send him pictures like that. he rather see my eyes and he likes me because of my personality and that i stand out to him bc i'm classy. so i'm just so very confused. and i wish he would come back honestly. i really saw great potential in our chemistry talking. 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