SweetestofSins Posted April 27, 2017 Share Posted April 27, 2017 Hi everyone, I am seeking some advice regarding a continuing to get to know a guy I recently met. He is a senior at a very competitive and prestigious Military Academy in New York (initials of academy are W.P, I'm sure you can figure it out from there.) I myself am 5 years older than him and have already started a great career. We met on Thursday of this week at a bar. I had no idea how old he was until he told me. I would have never guessed it since he seemed very mature for his age , must be the regimented military training. Anyways, he was an absolute gentleman and we hung out all night. Since he is still a student of a VERY strict military school he had a certain time he had to check in even while on pass (away from campus.) So before he left he asked for my number and texted me that very night. Wanted to make sure i got home safe and that I had his number. Obviously a good sign right? Well this is where things get confusing...We continue to text up until Saturday night. Just little things here and there, how he should come back to visit soon, or how he would love to see me again. Sunday night, he is absolutely quiet. I leave it as is and decide to text him Monday morning. A quick "How was your weekend?" All day, I never got a reply back. By 11pm, I just wrote it off as he probably wasn't as interested in me as I thought he was. So I decided to just let it go. At probably 30 minutes to midnight, I get a SnapChat message from him. HIM: "Hi! I'm so glad you found me on SnapChat. My text messages are gone and I lost your number." ME: "Haha! and here I thought you forgot about me" HIM: "I'm not a big into texting anyways" ME: "Well I did tell your to call me" HIM: "And then I lost the number. So I figured you thought I was ignoring you. And you have a valid point." ME: "I texted you this morning too" HIM you asked how my weekend was! And then I lost all my texts" ME: "How the heck did that happen?" HIM: "And the weekend was busy.I left for PA to get a diving cert. I'm not really sure. My phone has been doing wierd things. I think some guy is messing with it remotely." So I end up giving him my number again and we continue to text through out the next couple of days. Again, no in depth text convos or anything. Just quickly checking up on each other and sending a quick selfie a day to each other. Tuesday he says he may have time to call me later at night but he will text me before hand to make sure I am available as well. Tuesday night rolls around... 9PM, nothing. 10PM, nothing still. 11PM, still nothing. So I send him a quick text "I guess you got caught up. Have a good night." Probably 15 minutes later he replies and apologizes for not calling. He said that he and people in his brigade got into some trouble and he had gotten caught up trying to sort it out. And again apologized for having me wait up and not telling me as soon as he could that he couldnt call and promised in the future he would always keep in the loop in case he couldn't. So I let it go. First time, and things happen. I get that this is a ridiculously busy time for him, especially with the fact that he is graduating from a Military Academy. Next day, Wednesday, we text again throughout the day. Again, he apologized for not calling me the night before. I told him I understand, his life must be busy right now and that he doesnt have to text me beforehand. He can just call and if I'm available, I'll pick up. And we left the convo like that, not specifying the next time he will call or anything. Later on in the night, I get a text from him at 7PM. HIM: "Hey, I'm not gonna be able to call tonight. One of my groups lost some data and we have to figure that out. I feel I'm pretty much a flake at this point and I apologize for that. This just happens to be one heck of a time at the moment" ME: "I so appreciate you telling me as soon as you could. And you are not a flake (at least through no fault of your own.) As long as this isn’t just some excuse to avoid calling me 😉 . I hope your issue gets resolved. And again, I understand. You met me at an awfully busy time in your west point career. Lol." HIM: "Thanks for understanding, and haha I promise it is not an excuse" ME: "okay, I believe you. Let me know how everything works out. 😊" I've confided in my girlfriends and they all seem to think he is just making excuses and if he really did like me or was genuinely interested, he would always find some time to call me. If this were any other guy, I would completely agree with my girlfriends. But I just feel that he deserves to get the benefit of the doubt. His circumstances are very different from other guys. His daily schedule is very regimented. From 6:30AM to 11:30PM, everything is scheduled out for them. For me, as long as everything he is saying is the truth and not excuses, I have no issues with continuing to talk to him. I just don't want to continue to pursue this and realize he may have just been way to nice and couldn't just tell me straight up he wasnt interested. I believe he is, I mean when he lost my number, he couldve just left it at that. He hadnt added me as a friend on snap, so I wouldve been none the wiser. But instead, he adds me and continues to want to keep in contact with me. I would love any advice on this situation. Especially from anyone who has experience dating a military person... THANK YOU! Link to comment
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