Pluglover Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Hi All, I am facing a sligh dilemma in respect of my marriage, now I believe I have done what I can in the best way. However just looking for either some confirmation or additional pointers to consider. Just a quick background so you can understand whats happening: Been married for several years. Used to live with my husband and my son (from a previous relationship) up until approximately one year ago as my husband is an alcoholic and drug user; which I didnt want around my son as I felt it was an unhealthy environment for him. We all spend time together regularly, family days out, movie nights, he even stays over 2 nights per week etc. We all get along brilliantly. However approx every 3 weeks he will go on a drug and alcohol binge for about 2 weeks. During this time I am cursed to high heaven and accused of all sorts, blamed for not giving him money for more alcohol and being called selfish for doing so.... I am determined not to be his enabler. These binges usually result in suicide attempts and hospitalisation for alcohol posioning. His lease on his property is coming to an end and he has asked if he can stay in the marital home for approximately one month in order to wait for his next property to be ready. I have said no; mainly due to the fact it is not the kind of environment I want to live in and I do not think it is healthy for my 12 year old son or myself. Only yesterday my husband was telling me he hated me because I wouldnt give him money for alcohol?!?! Have I done the right thing by saying no to moving in for 4 weeks. I am worried that if I do I will have to deal with his irrational behaviour in the home and that my son may witness it. He has been offered emergency accommodation by a rehabilitation group he attends however it is out of town - not sure how true this is as at present not able to believe everything he says. Secretely thinking if he does move towns could this be my 'get out clause' Opinions welcome!! Thanks for your time Link to comment
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