jnr586 Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 I'm a 34 year old gay man. I've been in a 'relationship' with a guy for nearly a year which can best be described as 'friends with benefits'. We talk every day, hang out either alone or with a group of friends multiple times a week, flirt on text messages, and hook up maybe once a month. The connection is probably more emotional than physical. There's no pretense of a long-term relationship although I'd admittedly be open to more and he knows that. He freely admits that he's unhappy with himself- his body, his career trajectory- he's always looking to the future rather than enjoying the present. He's a social butterfly but privately a bit of a loner due to a hostile relationship with his parents and general lack of support structure. He seems extremely slow to trust and be vulnerable. We've grown close and I think I've earned more trust than nearly anyone else has from him, but he's still guarded. He's surprisingly sensitive and seems easily hurt. I've been told and read time and time again that someone can't truly love if they don't truly love themselves. I'm trying to understand that statement better. I care about this guy, and I want to be someone that he feels he can fully trust. Link to comment
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