catfeeder Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 one time we had 3 days apart when he left me stranded hiking. On top of your long list of potential dealbreakers, this is inexcusable and would have been enough for me to walk away from the guy permanently. He's already humiliated you and harmed your friendships, THIS could have killed you. You didn't ruin some kind of 'soul' connection, you broke free of a non-working abuser who leapfrogged straight over to someone else. I'd say fine to that, and I'd make it my goal to surprise everyone, including myself, with my resilience and ability to bounce back from this to create a fabulous life for myself. Move your focus onto getting a job as quickly as possible, and rekindle relationships you've neglected while you form new friendships. This guy will become irrelevant over time if you can stop ruminating about him--and stop making up fantasies of some love story where your sacrifices save the day. There's nothing romantic or desirable about throwing away your potential for some loser who leaves you stranded in the woods. Credit your 'soul' for being smarter than that. Head high, you'll thank yourself later. Link to comment
Iggy5129 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 This guy is a total loser and he dragged you down to his level. He's not "spiritual", "special" or "anti-establishment". This is code for lazy. He's a lazy loser and he treated you like garbage. Be glad you are rid of him. Focus on finding a job and getting your life together. Link to comment
Solostwhattodo Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 Thank you. I had some money saved and he gets monthly $. On a shoe string, camping. He was pretty fair about $. Link to comment
Solostwhattodo Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 Thank you. Harsh! Lol. Love is blind! And I knew it. He does have redeeming qualities and those are what I will remember moving forward. Link to comment
Solostwhattodo Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 Thank you so much for your support. I really needed to hear that! Link to comment
Solostwhattodo Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 Man bun! Lol. Link to comment
Solostwhattodo Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 Thank you everyone for taking the time, very helpful, I am seeing more clearly. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Do you mean you diagnosed him? Link to comment
Solostwhattodo Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 Do you mean you diagnosed him? ??? No, he made headlines a few years back. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 No, he made headlines a few years back. Is that good or bad . Lol Link to comment
Solostwhattodo Posted February 12, 2017 Author Share Posted February 12, 2017 Is that good or bad . Lol it was an adventure, I'll get over it!i believe we were brought together by divine intervention so that we both can grow, I got a lot more out of it than he will...I have learned a lot about myself and what I need to work on. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 You said then said He isn't vulnerable , he is a complete bell end . Lady, What's a "Bell end?" Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 He has a man bun and a beard, doesn't he? From all that you've described, he's an absolute waste of space. Sorry, I'm not usually that harsh about people, but... It's also code for LOSER! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Thank you. I had some money saved and he gets monthly $. On a shoe string, camping. He was pretty fair about $. The tax payers support him. Why is this OK for you? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Many autistic people can't work. My son is supported by tax payers. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Many autistic people can't work. My son is supported by tax payers. I have no problem with folks being on support if they have legitimate health problems - that's why it is there - it is the one's that take advantage that i have issues with. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Many autistic people don't have the executive skills and the processing skills to be able to work in the average workplace . And many require supervision on a scale that most working places are not prepared to give . Work places are also not prepared to give them a place to retreat to if they feel overwhelmed . Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Many autistic people don't have the executive skills and the processing skills to be able to work in the average workplace . And many require supervision on a scale that most working places are not prepared to give . Work places are also not prepared to give them a place to retreat to if they feel overwhelmed . Completely understand. That is why it is a necessary support system. I was referring to the other guy, who sounds like a complete leech and creep. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Lady, What's a "Bell end?" Holls maybe you don't say it there ...the rounded end of a penis is fondly called a * bell end* here lol Link to comment
Hollyj Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 Holls maybe you don't say it there ...the rounded end of a penis is fondly called a * bell end* here lol Or, maybe I'm out of practice. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 12, 2017 Share Posted February 12, 2017 You dodged a bullet. He sounds like the Unabomber. ] He is highly intelligent and very spiritual but does not work, believe in excess and extremely anti-establishment.He can be selfish, controlling, he is manipulative, narcissistic, pompous, does not want children, ruined two of my primary (out of 5) friendships purposefully, and embarrassed me in public. Link to comment
fabact Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 he sounds like narcisitic jerk and frankly you dodged a bullet. Link to comment
CSM101 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Personally, I think you dodged a bullet. I agree with this. Link to comment
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