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  1. For sure nice guys to settle down with. Just be you. Bad boys bc the girls dont love and value themselves enough. Dont seek validation from outside you will set urself up for rejection. Confidence but not arrogant. You must have empathy or you will go from girl to girl as ‘that guy’.
  2. You need to talk to him rather than post on this thread. Seems like he's trying to put this is the past but you won't talk to him about it. You both need to clear the air. Does no good for us go advise.. Sent from my LG-TP450 using Tapatalk
  3. This is way too complicated for the first dates or encounters. I would leave this be. Sent from my LG-TP450 using Tapatalk
  4. None of us really know your personality from just one post. I do get a sense of anger or upsetness. I would say try some therapy. I think you'll get to the root of a lot. Do you have health insurance for it? . Nothing wrong with therapy by the way. It is way attractive to be with someone who knows themselves.
  5. She's made it clear she wants friendship. Everything else is wishful thinking. She's not Ted y for more and hanging around to wait for it will just frustrate you and make her pull away more because she sees she's just frustrating you.
  6. I dunno. If you're talking about 'breakup and keeping the ring' I don't think that's a good sign. You need to talk to her about these issues and do some pre-marital counseling. These are serious issues. Sent from my LG-TP450 using Tapatalk
  7. Omg after my breakup I was a hot mess. No contact helped but since then have seen him at yoga and i will say I have a mini meltdown the day afterwards each time now I've stopped going to yoga. Try to not contact him so you can heal. Last thing I said after yoga last time was, "although the feelings weren't reciprocated or I wasn't what u were looking for, I am glad I felt something and felt what I felt while we were together. Some people go lifetimes without feeling those great feelings towards someone." try to look at it that way. It may help you move on. Sent from my LG-TP450 using Tapatalk
  8. She probably is playing the same game as you. Since you don't text when you say you will she is not responding right away.
  9. OK I know you're getting a lot of advice here but I would say the key is to stay as calm as possible. You have to for your sanity. 1) read 'love must be tough " by James dobbson. (I think that's what it's called. It will help you a great deal) 2) listen to Ester Pearle on the topic of infidelity. She's all over YouTube she's an expert at it If you BOTH want to save your marriage, you can. But you're going to need guidance. For your own sanity, health and for your marriage go to those two sources above.
  10. Oh I just read your second to last post. So there's no other woman. Okay, so good. But again be careful of self sacrificing if he doesn't want the help. Believe me, it doesn't do anyone any good. And the bit about blowing up your life I still stand by. Just watch out for rash decisions and need to suddenly change everything. Everyone is different but I've experienced it and seen this with other people who have been through illnesses. Communication is key.
  11. I am a cancer survivor and I could see how being with someone understands cancer is very comforting. I also think you put aside all bs when you get cancer and you really feel like time is limited. I'm not saying you were bs but I would imagine that the familiarity and wanting a caregiver is important to him. I will say the way he went about ending it with you was wrong and cowardly. And really selfish.. And the age gap is a big one. And yourr just setting ur self up to take care of him and lots of pain. I'm not saying you shouldn't do this for a partner but only for someone who WANTS you to do it for him. He obviously had someone else in mind and perhaps the illness brought that to the forefront for him. It's not about you though it hurts I'm sure. But you're still young to be a caretaker for someone that doesn't really want it. That's self sacrificing and I would look at why you'd be willing to do that. You don't know him THAT well though I'm sure u had a nice time when u were together. Also cáncer and other illnesses tends to make us want to blow up our life so to speak. Meaning that we destroy everything around bc of that fear of dying and being able to get another chance at finding and experiencing whatever you are looking for. My two cents.
  12. I'm so sorry you're going through this. He sounds horrible and has zero integrity. Try to block him every way you can to heal. You deserve better.
  13. Please you deserve better than this. He sounds like a .
  14. She probably figured out you weren't to interested and ghosted you.
  15. He's just being a normal 2 year old. They're clingy at that age and cry at the drop of a hat. Just how it is - terrible 2s as one poster said here. I wouldn't worry. He will warm up soon enough. The kids I lived with my ex were shy at first but warmed up quickly. Don't take it personally. Just how kids at that age are.
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