spinderella Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 Dating for four months. 3 weeks ago he got tasked with an extra workload at his job that sent him into 80 hr work weeks and has stressed him out enormously. His stress has effected me as well as others in his life. During this time he gets super distant. Less texts. Less affection. We get together last week and have a great night...I tell him the next day that it was nice and I felt more connected and less stress coming from him. He says "yeah I haven't felt as connected lately" So I say ok adios - I mean you're not feeling connected, which means you aren't feeling me..so guess its time to call this done. He reacts with "So that's it? Just like that you're out?" I react with "Aren't you basically telling me that you're out?" He says he hasn't felt as connected lately, and knows its got to do with the work stress, but isn't sure if theres also more to it. He's "trying to figure that out" I do the hard push for an answer and he gives me the "I'm trying to figure it out, I know its not fair to be with you and unsure so idk what to do" We talk about slowing things down. Tapping the breaks on texting all day and calling all the time and giving each other space - him to handle some of his work stuff without girlfriend pressure and to "get some perspective and think things over" and me to "take some time for myself since all of his distance and ambiguity has been a distraction for me" That's where we left it. I'm supposed to call later in the week. He hasn't texted at all in 3 days. Mind you we said we'd cut back on texting - not that we'd put a ban on it. Anyway, my read on this is that he's out but he's just too cowardly to breakup directly. So I want to get some impartial takes on the situation: 1. Is he obviously wanting out and not just saying it? 2. Is it possible he is actually so consumed with his work stress that he's let it interfere with us and left him confused? 3. Does he genuinely just need some damn space? I've already decided that I'm not going to call. Even though I'm the one who said I would late in the week. If he wants me he can call. Maybe its a petty test maneuver idk. THOUGHTS? Link to comment
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