reinventmyself Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 Bottom line. . .there is nothing you can do about it. You are thrashing about wondering what to say and trying to decode his messages in an attempt to try to control a situation you have absolutely no control over. You have one of two choices. You either trust him or you don't. If you don't, then end it now. Trying to straddle the middle and trying to control someone who is another country on vacation is pointless. No wonder you are frustrated. Trust him until he gives you reason not to. Don't mistrust him because of folk lore about the culture of other places. Trust that if something does happen it will ultimately make it's way to the surface to be known. Until then you carry on like usual. I don't see you have any other choice. . .other than ending it. He contacts you 4 times a day while on vacation. In light of things I think that's pretty generous. Stop driving yourself crazy over `what if's' Link to comment
Lonely Jade Posted January 25, 2017 Author Share Posted January 25, 2017 Yeah you're all right.. I just think going from having so much loving from him to nothing has made me think the worst. It's 2 weeks till his home now anyway so I'll have to rough t out! Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 I have done a contiki tour. It's party every night and hooking up. But there is great sight-seeing aswell. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 I have done a contiki tour. It's party every night and hooking up. But there is great sight-seeing aswell. ] Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 Yeah you're all right.. I just think going from having so much loving from him to nothing has made me think the worst. It's 2 weeks till his home now anyway so I'll have to rough t out! You can't tolerate being on your own for a couple weeks . . .so much so it seems you're suffering? Do you think that's ok? Link to comment
Lonely Jade Posted January 26, 2017 Author Share Posted January 26, 2017 You can't tolerate being on your own for a couple weeks . . .so much so it seems you're suffering? Do you think that's ok? No need to be rude..! he's been away for 7 weeks allready I said 2 weeks left to go, for someone who has never been separated from their partner it isn't the funnest experience Link to comment
Lonely Jade Posted January 26, 2017 Author Share Posted January 26, 2017 I have done a contiki tour. It's party every night and hooking up. But there is great sight-seeing aswell. Thanks for your insightful comment lol Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 Thanks for your insightful comment lol Seriously, most people on the Contiki want to experience culture and sight-seeing. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 Seriously, most people on the Contiki want to experience culture and sight-seeing. i agree - not everyone is hooking up. Some are enjoying the sights, food, museums, etc.... Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him, OP? Link to comment
abitbroken Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 No need to be rude..! he's been away for 7 weeks allready I said 2 weeks left to go, for someone who has never been separated from their partner it isn't the funnest experience No - you were apart from him years before you met him. I think that you should do some soul searching and also get comfortable with being in your own skin - to be happy by yourself as well as when you are physically with him Link to comment
Lonely Jade Posted January 27, 2017 Author Share Posted January 27, 2017 Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him, OP? Well yes at the very beginning of our relationship I found out he'd been flirting with this other girl and asked her to come over via snapchat, ( but he aparently didn't really want her to come over it was just an attention type thing as I never use to give him attention) but after arriving at my apartment crying and very regretful I forgave him after a while and as I am his first relationship I feel it was a regretful mistake on his behalf and ever since then nothing has happened and he has been very loving and caring and supportive but I guess that has made me weary now Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted January 27, 2017 Share Posted January 27, 2017 Well yes at the very beginning of our relationship I found out he'd been flirting with this other girl and asked her to come over via snapchat, ( but he aparently didn't really want her to come over it was just an attention type thing as I never use to give him attention) but after arriving at my apartment crying and very regretful I forgave him after a while and as I am his first relationship I feel it was a regretful mistake on his behalf and ever since then nothing has happened and he has been very loving and caring and supportive but I guess that has made me weary now This is where this current anxiety is coming from. He has demonstrated to you that he's not the most trustworthy individual and still had eyes for other girls. No wonder you don't feel secure. Even if he didn't cheat, his behaviour was inappropriate for someone in a relationship. My arse he didn't actually want this girl to come over. How did you discover this, and how long ago did it happen, exactly? Link to comment
psot2 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Jade how old are you and which country do you live in? You're very obviously insecure, quite a bit like me, but worse! I really understand your pain, but you're self sabotaging and you need to understand that. If you live near me I'd invite you out for coffee to talk about girl stuff and both get our minds off our boyfriends instead of constantly having fears that would get us nowhere. I've noticed your threads since at least a month ago... Link to comment
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