foxfire Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 Hey, Im 15 and i have my first boyfriend and he's 17. I really like him but he really wants to have anal sex and I don't think Im ready. I mean oral sex fine but anal i dunno cuz thats a big deal. I know this sounds cliche but I think if I dont he'll end up breaking up with me. did anyone else just go along with it if they werent sure? Link to comment
Roasted Carrots Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 If anal sex (or oral, or vaginal, for that matter) makes you the least bit uncomfortable - Don't do it! If you have any doubts at all - Don't do it! If you think he will break it off with you simply on accout of refusal to have any form of intercourse - Don't do it! Your body is YOUR body. Don't let anybody pressure you into acts if you feel you're not ready. Trust me, this anxiety is your body's way of telling you that you're not ready. Trust your intuition. On another point, why are you bothering with this guy if in the back of your mind you think he might dump you by your refusal to have sex? That type of guy is not worth your time. A boyfriend should be someone who loves you for your *personality*, not sexual favors. You might want to re-think this relationship if he's not being all that you deserve. Keep us posted. Good luck! Link to comment
Cadence308 Posted March 28, 2005 Share Posted March 28, 2005 I agree with the above posts. If you are not ready or if something makes you uncomfortable don't do it. If you think this guy might break up with you because of it, then telling him no may be a good way to test the boundaries of your relationship. You don't want to just be a booty call to this guy! Link to comment
foxfire Posted April 1, 2005 Author Share Posted April 1, 2005 well I did tell him no and last week he broke up with me. But in all truth that might not be the reason, and i think overall i guess this was for the best. things like these usually work out in some way or form. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted March 31 Share Posted March 31 On 3/26/2005 at 5:28 PM, foxfire said: ...i have my first boyfriend... So there's no need to treat him like the only one you'll ever have. If he doesn't have enough regard for you to stay with you even when you respect your own limits, then he's not worth trashing your own boundaries over, correct? Head high. Link to comment
DarkCh0c0 Posted March 31 Share Posted March 31 37 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: 18 years later? I don't understand either haha. @catfeederwere you fishing intentionally for that type of content? 😂🎣 Link to comment
catfeeder Posted March 31 Share Posted March 31 6 hours ago, DarkCh0c0 said: I don't understand either haha. @catfeederwere you fishing intentionally for that type of content? 😂🎣 Hah! Nope. It was at the top of my feed, and I missed that. I have no idea how it got bumped there… 1 Link to comment
LotusBlack Posted April 21 Share Posted April 21 I sometimes still wonder about KnightMan who wrote a post several years ago about his cheating wife. We all liked him so much as he was a really upstanding guy and many of us looked forward to his updates. I was thinking about it just this morning and where he is in the world - if he ended up getting serious with that nice lady he met some time after his divorce. Link to comment
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