thechoseone23 Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 Hello there We all know being dumped is the worst feeling ever and no one who ever went through being dumped would want to go through the depression again. I've been recently dumped and I'm actually in the recovery stage and I've fully accepted it and moved on after being depressed for a month. What got me wondering is what stages does the dumpee go through since they're the one who initiated the break up. Any dumpee's here that would like to share their thoughts?? Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 Hello there We all know being dumped is the worst feeling ever and no one who ever went through being dumped would want to go through the depression again. I've been recently dumped and I'm actually in the recovery stage and I've fully accepted it and moved on after being depressed for a month. What got me wondering is what stages does the dumpee go through since they're the one who initiated the break up. Any dumpee's here that would like to share their thoughts?? The fact that you are asking what the dumpee is feeling suggests you aren't as recovered as you might like to think. When you have fully accepted a break up you don't care what so ever what the other party is thinking or feeling. This is your heart fooling you into a pseudo connection buy trying to get into their head. Soooo. . for the record, dumpees feel a lot of the same emotions with the exception of feeling unwanted. They feel a sense of loss, doubt, second guessing themselves, disappointment and withdrawal. Let that be enough information and put your energy into learning things about yourself . . Link to comment
thechoseone23 Posted October 14, 2015 Author Share Posted October 14, 2015 The fact that you are asking what the dumpee is feeling suggests you aren't as recovered as you might like to think. When you have fully accepted a break up you don't care what so ever what the other party is thinking or feeling. This is your heart fooling you into a pseudo connection buy trying to get into their head. Soooo. . for the record, dumpees feel a lot of the same emotions with the exception of feeling unwanted. They feel a sense of loss, doubt, second guessing themselves, disappointment and withdrawal. Let that be enough information and put your energy into learning things about yourself . . Lol thanks for your reply! Believe it or not me and some friends were chatting and this topic came up so I decided to post the question here. I am pretty sure I have moved on so don't worry! Thanks for your input tho! Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 What got me wondering is what stages does the dumpee go through since they're the one who initiated the break up. As far as I know the dumper usually initiates the breakup, not the dumpee. Link to comment
jennylove Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 The dumper typically feels relieved Link to comment
Movingforward3 Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Are you for real? Are you the dumper or dumped? 3+months depending if you started focusing on yourself and you had fun. If you pine away, much longer. You will go thru many stages and even at acceptance you will still have waves of missing the other. Link to comment
thechoseone23 Posted October 15, 2015 Author Share Posted October 15, 2015 Im sorry I meant what stages the dumper goes through Link to comment
thechoseone23 Posted October 15, 2015 Author Share Posted October 15, 2015 As far as I know the dumper usually initiates the breakup, not the dumpee. Sorry the dumper 🙈 Link to comment
Iamdeadinside Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 I just ended a relationship where I was the dumper actually. We had been in a long distance relationship for a while and that distance was slowly pushing us apart. At first I felt relieved - it was much easier than fighting every day and I felt "free" in a way. That was about 3 months ago. Not a single day has passed where I dont think about her and the more time that goes by the more I begin to regret my decision (especially considering she asked me to get back together 6 weeks ago). So last week I decided to try and fix my mistake and she had already moved on. Told me she has a new boyfriend and she couldnt do this anymore. Tried to call her today for some closure and she had blocked my number. I have never felt so alone, rejected or disheartened in my life. Long story short - our positions essentially reversed and now I am dead inside. Breakups suck no matter what side youre on. Link to comment
dave_1966 Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Are we supposed to feel sorry for you? You should post this in the break up section as a new post. Link to comment
thechoseone23 Posted October 15, 2015 Author Share Posted October 15, 2015 So sorry about that I feel your pain we have all been there! Try to accept that you guys are no longer going to work and move on and focus on yourself. It sucks you have to go through this all again but life goes on! God gave us the best gift ever and that gift is being able to forget and move on. It won't be easy to forget but with time you will! Good luck! Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 The dumper typically feels relieved That's what I thought too. Link to comment
jessie89 Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Totally depends on the reasons why they left! Link to comment
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