How long are dates and do they mean more when and how long they are

[localvet]

After reading through other responses of my other posts, in between being called insecure and so on, but a lot of great input. I am curious about how dates count on where the early relationship is.

 

So first off, this is just a curiosity post. So I am at 5 dates with this gal now. Each date is planned simple and easy. They all have lasted 6-8 hours, all but one (that lasted 10 hours) on a week night, counting Sunday as a week night. Time flies by and we don't realize the time. So I am curious... would you put more weight on these 5 dates then a normal 1-2 hour date? Another gal I dated previous, we had 4 dates, none over 1.5 hours, some just a quick lunch coffee date, no big deal at all, barely even a date.I know it will go where it is going to go. I am feeling good about it right now, everything is working its self out, even my overthinking. I am just curious what you all think. I do think these 5 dates are a bit heavier than normal, (we have not had sex).

[LoveSoDeep]

Not really. It could just be that you and this gal have more free time that happens to sync up well.

 

I will say that yes, I would consider it a good sign if each time I saw a guy we lost track of time and ended up spending several hours together without even realizing it. It would not mean more to me than seeing a guy who makes time for a 1 hour lunch date here or there because he wants to see me but he's otherwise very busy.

[melancholy123]

Wow you sure like to over-analyze things! I'd say a long date is a good sign you both like each other.

[localvet]

Not really. It could just be that you and this gal have more free time that happens to sync up well.

 

I will say that yes, I would consider it a good sign if each time I saw a guy we lost track of time and ended up spending several hours together without even realizing it. It would not mean more to me than seeing a guy who makes time for a 1 hour lunch date here or there because he wants to see me but he's otherwise very busy.

 

That's a new factor, how hard is it to make time!

[localvet]

this is really just for fun. I am not looking for signs or anything special. I do like to hear how others think.

[notalady]

Without more information, yes I would say that's a sign that things are going well.

[notalady]

this is really just for fun. I am not looking for signs or anything special. I do like to hear how others think.

 

Personally, I don't keep track of time when on dates. If I'm enjoying the date, I'll stay longer (until I have to go, mostly because of timing), if I'm not enjoying the date, I'll leave early and there won't be a next date. This usually happens within the first 3 dates.

 

It's not a hard and fast rule but typically whether there is a next date and whether the person is enthusiastic about seeing you, is a good indicator of how things are going.

[Patrick974]

The longer the date is, the best it was imo.

 

After date 3 a woman I was dating and I were supposed to visit my city for the afternoon and she came over for a drink at my place. She spent the night with me and we stayed together for over a year. Spark, chemistry etc.

[HeartGoesOn]

It's a matter of different strokes for different folks, but I would go by quality rather than quantity.

[missmarple]

Well, my longest first date ever (5.5 hours) was with a guy who later turned out to be a huge liar who had had a g/f at the time of the date! After that incident I realised that the amount of time you spend on a date doesn't matter one way or another.