ut_longhorn Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 Ok..brief history. Met this girl online. 4 weeks ago. Shes in LA...me in TX. We started with texts, then to emails, to then phone calls & IMs. We're supposed to see each other for the first time in 7 days. Now. Everything seemed well and dandy. She texts me almost every morning...and sometimes through the day. We IM..and have phone convos. etc etc. Seemed fine. The this morning. I called her...after about 10 mins...she says she's going to eat breakfast and will call me back. OK...no problem. She calls me back 2 hours later. In my head I think it's a tad long..but ok..NP. But in 5 mins..she has another call and she says she'll call back. doesnt call back. After 6 hours she sends me 2 texts. "Hey sorry for not getting back to you earlier, but I knocked out after I got back home from running errands. I'm going out with my friends in a bit so I'll catch up again later, but I just wanted to say hi" Now I think something is odd. But wanted to see what you guys thought? Am I reading too much? or Not a biggie? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 You're being incredibly insecure. You sure you're the type who can handle a LDR? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatwasThen Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 she doesn't owe you any more then what she is giving you. You're not exclusive and you're hardly on her radar. I too wonder if you're able to handle something long distance. Why not set your sights on someone closer to home where you can actually nurture the relationship one-on-one rather then through electronic means that will have you angst ridden in the ambiguity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ut_longhorn Posted August 15, 2015 Author Share Posted August 15, 2015 that's what i wanted to validate. if i'm being insecure or if she's pulling some sort of slow fade. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DancingFool Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 Sorry, but you are being incredibly insecure. Methinks you need to work on yourself pretty seriously if something like this sets off doubts and anxiety in you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosti87 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 OP, You may not be ready for prime time LDRs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick974 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 You nailed it yourself and answered yer own question. You are overthinking over nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greta96 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 You haven't even met in person yet...for now, you two are strangers who don't owe each other anything. With that said, yes, you are definitely not a priority right now (rightfully so). I wouldn't necessarily say you're insecure, but I'm not sure you are cut out for a LDR. You may need to meet someone local instead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ut_longhorn Posted August 15, 2015 Author Share Posted August 15, 2015 yea...i mean..i personally don't see myself as an insecure person in general. ive had several healthy relationships. even 2 LDRs. One which was 5 years, and another that was 8 months. Now...that being said...I may be reading too much into this? Maybe some sort of psychological overthinking or over analyzing. Which probably isn't healthy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patrick974 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 It is unhealthy and psychologically exhausting. Take it easy. You havent even met. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speck Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 Give her plenty of room. Neediness will driver here away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 It wasn't like she didn't respond for days. You need to chill! Are you always like this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ut_longhorn Posted August 16, 2015 Author Share Posted August 16, 2015 I think Im generally pretty laid back. I also dont consider myself needy either. But what I am sensitive to is when patterns change. And when they do...I tend to over analyze. That is my issue. I am glad that you guys are pointing out that I am being irrational. Actually quite helpful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 Yes, you are being insecure. But I think starting a relationship off as an LTR is a terrible idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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