faraday Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Breaking up is like tearing off a band aid Link to comment
testcase Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Breaking up is like tearing off a band aid Lol slow and painful?? Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 I am sorry this is not working out the way you had hoped but you will come away having learned something from it. It gets you that much closer to the right one. . You take away the lesson of things you do and do not want in a partner. . . And it wasn't all bad. He seems like a nice guy and you did enjoy the time together. . He's just not the one. . Carry on! Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 28, 2015 Author Share Posted April 28, 2015 I think, after this ends, I'm going to leave my OLD profiles inactive and just concentrate on myself for a couple months. I really need to get back into healthy eating and going to the gym - and I actually want to, too. After getting the results of that catscan a few weeks ago, I'm realizing how bad I let me health get over the years. I'm only 25, but I feel older. I was talking with a girlfriend the other day about sex, and what it meant to each of us. For me,. I always wants it. Always. I think it's because I waited so long to have it, and when I finally did, it was with someone that didn't want to learn more about it with me. So, I guess you could say that my curiosity has never been fully satisfied. And... I so very rarely feel good about myself. So when I get really turned on... And I feel the fire coursing through me... I feel wonderful. And good. And sexy. It's a feeling I fight to capture as often as I can, since I don't feel that way on a normal basis. And talking it over with my friend, made me understand how truly little confidence I have in myself. If I think of sex as one of the only ways to make myself feel good about myself, then I feel like it's a serious problem. And I really want to work on that. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 If we're not growing, we're dying. Keep on your path, know what you want and keep that in your focus...not where you are, but where you want to be. You'll do great Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 He came over to spend the night. Tried being intimate, got as far as him getting his and apparently we were done. Then he left because his back was hurting him, instead of staying the whole night. I'm over it. I'm done. I'm just tired. I want to be alone now. Link to comment
missmarple Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 I'm sorry WithLove but it does sound like there's nothing in this relationship for you. Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 I agree. I don't seem to get anything out of this relationship at all. I need to figure out how to go about doing this. If I say "I want to talk to you about our relationship" or even just "I need to talk to you", he'll know right away. Link to comment
mhowe Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Tell him on your next date. It will be a short one. You don't need to say "we need to talk" beforehand. Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 I'll see him next tomorrow I think. I'm supposed to go over to his place. I guess I can just ask him to come outside and tell him there? Link to comment
mhowe Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 You can go inside...sit down, explain and leave. Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 His mother will likely be there. Link to comment
mhowe Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 His mother will likely be there. I thought he had his own place? Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 No - his father passed away and he moved in with his mom to help her out with bills and such, until she recovered. He is moving to a different city to purchase his own place in the next year or so, now that she's able to live on her own. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 I'm probably going to get some hate for saying this...but I would do it over the phone. Not over text...but in a phone call. I would just say, "Tyler, I'm dating to find my future husband, and it recently occurred to me that we won't make it to that point. I don't want to waste your time." And you can say nice things about him if it makes you feel better...but I would just get it over with. I've never been a fan of in person break ups. If a guy is breaking up with me, I don't want to go through the motions of preparing for a fake date, only to have it end before it begins. But that's just my preference. If it must be in person, cancel your date tonight and rebook for when his mom isn't there....because that's awkward. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Invite him out to your car then Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 That's what I want to do. tell him over the phone I mean. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 It's a horrible feeling....but as soon as you do it, that feeling will lift. This guy isn't your the one. And he's taking your time from meeting your the one Link to comment
faraday Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 I think the phone is much simpler. Gives him a few days to accept, then you can meet up to trade back each other's stuff (if there is any) Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 Fortunately there isn't. The only thing I have at his place is a profile on his Wii U (lol). He doesn't have one on my consoles. We've never stayed overnight with each other, so there aren't any personal belongings left at each other's places. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 You've never stayed over night together???? How did I miss that? Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 Well, he's never asked me to stay overnight at his place (but I feel like he would do so if I expressed an interest in it), and we've tried twice for him to stay at mine, but the first time he felt bad because he wasn't tired (he works overnights, so our schedules are completely opposite) and this time he was going to but his back was hurting him and he said he didn't want to keep me awake by constantly moving. Also, he probably would have spent the night with me more often, but I had that bug issue and I was too embarrassed. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Itmakes sense. That seems so weird to me though...one of my favourite things about being in a relationship is waking up with someone... Link to comment
WithLove Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 I miss that too. Sigh. It's a bad day. Link to comment
faraday Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 It's a day where you get to start over. Link to comment
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