Feel hate towards my ex

[silversoul]

Last two days I feel hate towards my ex even though I thought I have forgiven him. I didn't feel it when break-up just happened, so this is the first time I feel hate consistently for two days. I do not wish him any bad just have this very intense feeling of hate. Does this mean I'm closer to getting over him?

[nick66]

I don't think you're "over him" until you feel indifferent towards him. As long as you still have feelings, whether they're love or hate, then you're not over him yet. Give it time, it will come.

[Lorem Ipsum]

If I read your post history correctly, you broke up in November. It's entirely possible you've just hit the second of the link removed Because nickgtg is right, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's apathy.

[CleoC]

I think it's normal. Your feelings towards your ex will change everyday, at least that's what's happening to me.

I hate him sometimes, then I'm sad and I miss him a lot, and the list of feelings goes on haha

Just feel whatever you have to feel until you start feeling indifferent, which is what I want to feel as well because we'll know we got over them

[ParisPaulette]

It means you are going through normal stages of a breakup and the numbness is/has worn off. You'll pass through a number of emotions most likely and yes hate/rage/anger is all part of that package. Keep in mind though it's a better state than numbness or grief or feeling like you'll do anything to get them back. So yes, you are getting closer. Channel that anger into constructive activities like journaling or a kickboxing session or two at the gym and you'll soon feel much better. And yes one day you'll just be like, "Meh, so what" which is indifference.

[bwhite00]

Natural. I hated my ex more than anyone on the planet for probably a solid month or two after the break-up. the hates pretty much gone now , 6 months later

[kz91]

It's normal, I think everyone on here has gone through the stage of hating their ex.

 

I remember when I did and then after that, I just forgave and moved on.

[Lucha]

Stage two of grief. There will likely be plenty of these stage switches before you reach acceptance.. Which prob is indifference.

[nick66]

Like everyone has stated, it's natural. You won't be truly over or forgiven him until you feel indifferent towards him. That day will come, but please allow yourself to experience all the emotions you're going through.

[dori]

but for me the hatred has reached its peak today that I am trying to get him back just to dump him