Moontiger Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Been up for 26 hours. Cant sleep. Took a day off. Go see a doctor TODAY. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Don't quit your job, but do see the doctor. He will give you some medication to help you sleep and get yu stablilized. Please let us know how you are doing sweetie..... chi Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 I finally managed to get some sleep. But only 4 hours. I feel like if i fall asleep i will lose control over reality. She hasnt contacted me and it doesnt feel good as i thought. Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Go see a doctor TODAY. Thanks i will. Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Don't quit your job, but do see the doctor. He will give you some medication to help you sleep and get yu stablilized. Please let us know how you are doing sweetie..... chi I have to quit it because she gave it to me. Link to comment
mhowe Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 No, you don't. She used her influence --- if you weren't good at it, they wouldn't keep you. It would be pretty shallow of her to 'ask" to have you fired. However, if it brings you in contact with her -- I would leave. But not before you line up another job. Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 No, you don't. She used her influence --- if you weren't good at it, they wouldn't keep you. It would be pretty shallow of her to 'ask" to have you fired. However, if it brings you in contact with her -- I would leave. But not before you line up another job. No it does not bring me in contact with her at all. I dont think them keeping me has much to do with my abilities. During the interview i was told that although im skilled they dont need my service as they already have enough employees and that they are going to give me the job because they cant say no to her. Link to comment
Heather Dawn Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 No, you don't. She used her influence --- if you weren't good at it, they wouldn't keep you. It would be pretty shallow of her to 'ask" to have you fired. It happens, though. When my boyfriend broke up with his previous girlfriend, who was best friends with his manager's wife (though that's not how he got the job), they fired him out of spite. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Don't quit until you have another job lined up. Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Don't quit until you have another job lined up. The only job i have lined up is the one that she mentioned days ago. Need to find one on my own but i feel like i dont have enough energy left in me. Im so tired. I miss her so much. I didnt even miss my 4 year ex this much and i was deeply in love with her. I dont know why. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 The only job i have lined up is the one that she mentioned days ago. Need to find one on my own but i feel like i dont have enough energy left in me. Im so tired. I miss her so much. I didnt even miss my 4 year ex this much and i was deeply in love with her. I dont know why. You miss the fantasy and because you were fresh out of a break up when all this happened with her everything is compounded. Go see a doctor and make an appointment with a therapist. Do not quit your job just yet. Start googling companies to see who has jobs open, try craigslist, call contacts you have (you must know people who work in your industry). I know its hard. I have had days where I cannot get out of bed. But try, just keep trying. Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Are you sure ending this is whats best for me. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Are you sure ending this is whats best for me. Re-read everything in this thread. Then step away from the computer for 30 minuets. Then re-read it again. What I am about to say is not meant to be mean, its honestly meant to help but its going to come accross much harsher then I intend: If you are losing days of sleep over a woman like this you need to go talk to a professional ASAP. You are having an extreme reaction to this situation. You had been with her for a grand total of 4 months right? Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Been knowing her for four years. Started having this relationship about a month ago. not 4. Thats how long its been since my previous break up. She just makes me feel good. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Been knowing her for four years. Started having this relationship about a month ago. not 4. Thats how long its been since my previous break up. She just makes me feel good. Your were not emotionally ready for any kind of relationship. She took advantage of you, Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 Your were not emotionally ready for any kind of relationship. She took advantage of you, I dont feel anything for my ex now though. If one day i stop loving this girl, do you think i should continue this relationship with her? Just for sex and other things. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 I dont feel anything for my ex now though. If one day i stop loving this girl, do you think i should continue this relationship with her? Just for sex and other things. No. No. No. Link to comment
KyleS Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 I dont feel anything for my ex now though. If one day i stop loving this girl, do you think i should continue this relationship with her? Just for sex and other things. Don't go back with her; she's the past. I don't think it's helping that she is sending you texts. It's hard to move on when you constantly have to read them. You might want to consider blocking her number completely if she doesn't stop. I finally managed to get some sleep. But only 4 hours. I feel like if i fall asleep i will lose control over reality. If you don't sleep you'll lose control over reality too. It's difficult to think straight when your body hasn't had chance to recover. You won't have lost control of reality; you'll just be sleeping while it is going on, or suspending it through the night - and let's face it - what is going to happen during the night? Most likely nothing, so get some rest! Like Moontiger said, don't quit your job until you have another one lined up. Even if there is potentially only a matter of time before she gets you "fired", use what time you have left working there to look for and apply to other jobs. Link to comment
mhowe Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 All of this over a woman you have been involved with for a month? In a "secret" relationship....so you have seen her, what ---10x? Dude, you really need to book an appointment with a therapist. This is over the top. Very unhealthy for you. Link to comment
Snow Bird Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Wow, that was a friggin long read if I have ever had one. LOL. I think you should stick to your guns and not see her until she gets divorced or at least starts the process for sure (with proof of it). Then she must see you in front of others so you know you aren't a dirty secret. Your age difference doesn't matter to me though. However, I don't think I could be with a guy half my age. I was in the post office recently and some guy in his mid 20's asked me out to dinner. I am 48 years old (I don't look my age either). I looked at him and I couldn't help but think "What in the hell would I do with a 24-25 year old guy? Put a nappy on him? Give him a bottle?" That was just way too young for me. I am intelligent, wise and have a lot of life and relationship experience. I would have been more suited to be his Mom. Just stick to your guns as difficult as it is. If she really does care, she will comply. Don't settle for anything less. If she doesn't comply, then you know for sure everything everyone said in this thread was right. Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Snowbird, get over yourself. I've made women your age squirt. And you think that makes you somehow worth her her time to go out to dinner? There's a little more to life. Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 3, 2013 Author Share Posted August 3, 2013 All of this over a woman you have been involved with for a month? In a "secret" relationship....so you have seen her, what ---10x? Dude, you really need to book an appointment with a therapist. This is over the top. Very unhealthy for you. In a romantic way, yes a month. But we've been knowing each other since 4 years. Link to comment
hopefully Posted August 3, 2013 Author Share Posted August 3, 2013 I got some healthy sleep last night. She called me about 7 times in the morning. Finally sent me a message asking if i got my license. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 I got some healthy sleep last night. She called me about 7 times in the morning. Finally sent me a message asking if i got my license. This women is sick and immature. Link to comment
mhowe Posted August 3, 2013 Share Posted August 3, 2013 Good god --- you don't even have a license and she wants to give you a car. You know what --- I think she should forget the sexual relationship with you and just adopt you. Did she check to make sure you had a healthy breakfast -- with all the essential food groups? The more information you give, the more this looks like one of the unhealthiest relationships I've ever seen. She is a mommy figure, a lover, a mentor ---- and you are play dough. Link to comment
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