dark angel9 Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I have known this guy for 2 weeks and we had 3 dates. We haven't had sex yet. He invited me for a 3 day road trip for NYE, just the 2 of us. We would get a hotel for 2 nights... I never had this type of thing happen early on in the dating. Is it too early? Is it it going to be awkward? I am a bit conflicted on if I should go or not... Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 For me it's too much too soon, but no doubt there are some girls who would go ahead with it. I would say, in your case, IF IN DOUBT, DON'T. Go with your gut instinct. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I would say far too soon. From three dates you don't really know him from Adam. He could be a psychokiller for all you know. Link to comment
dark angel9 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Share Posted December 22, 2012 Yeah, it's like things are fast tracking into a insta-relationship and I don't even know if I want that yet. He does seem to really like me a lot. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I wouldnt go if I were you. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 Get to know him slowly first. Insta relationships a lot of the time don't work. People don't take enough time to get to know each other. Link to comment
FYI Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 Wait a while. Find out who this guy is first. Link to comment
Lambert Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I wouldn't go... this is the reason-- if something bad happens, it's like, what were you thinking going away with a guy you knew for two weeks? I met a guy on line and we met the first time at the Casino. And he was drunk. When I told a friend, she said, well, what did you expect meeting at the Casino? I think that was a little harsh-- I'm sure nice people go to the casino. Just as I am sure someone could go away so quickly and have a great time but the chances? lol. Frankly, if he doesn't understand that it's too soon, then you don't want him. That's weird. Link to comment
EssexMan Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 Making the jump from dates of presumably no more than a few hours all the way to a three-day trip is too dramatic a leap, I think. You might find you don't get on as well as you expected and you're stuck with each other. Plus, the hotel (assuming you're sharing a room) kind of forces sex to the forefront in a way that I don't think is very comfortable. If I were in your position I'd want to have at least spent a day together, and be absolutely sure I was ready for sex, before agreeing to this trip. Link to comment
rainbowjxx Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I wouldn't go, as u don't really know this person and u don't know what he is like, really. Anyway, the best relationships that turn out great, r the ones where u have took ur time and really got to know them inside and out. Link to comment
becomingkate Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I have known this guy for 2 weeks and we had 3 dates. We haven't had sex yet. He invited me for a 3 day road trip for NYE, just the 2 of us. We would get a hotel for 2 nights... I never had this type of thing happen early on in the dating. Is it too early? Is it it going to be awkward? I am a bit conflicted on if I should go or not... Do you know a lot about him? Where he works, what is his family like, have you met his friends? I wouldn't go if I knew nothing about him, but I have to admit that I went away with my (now) husband around the three week mark. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I doubt that he is a killer that is a rare percentage, isn't it? a much higher likelihood is that things might go strange and you find yourself on a road trip without many options. If you go, have a backup plan on how to get back home on your own. Maybe even have separate rooms just in case your need your own space. It is a big leap from dating someone to sharing a trip, a room and a bed together. I am not saying that it cannot work out but nothing is worse than feeling trapped if you discover you have misjudged the situation and there is conflict instead of chemistry. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I think it's too soon and on the holidays it's harder to find a place to go if you need to get away or need space. Link to comment
dark angel9 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Share Posted December 22, 2012 I am not really concerned that he is a killer. I have been to his place and he picks me up and returns me home for dates so he could have killed me by now lol. I am not 100% sure that there is enough chemistry though. I am on the fence if I like him and I feel that he likes me more that I do him. I mentioned that I am considering moving away for work on the last date and he said right away: "Yeah, we can go. Nothing ties me to this city". I was thinking "woah, we???" So yes, I could potentially be trapped with him... Link to comment
Deciduous Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I am not really concerned that he is a killer. I have been to his place and he picks me up and returns me home for dates so he could have killed me by now lol. I am not 100% sure that there is enough chemistry though. I am on the fence if I like him and I feel that he likes me more that I do him. I mentioned that I am considering moving away for work on the last date and he said right away: "Yeah, we can go. Nothing ties me to this city". I was thinking "woah, we???" So yes, I could potentially be trapped with him... In that case I would say Nah! Not quite yet! You would only raising his expectations to fever ptich, bless him. There he is, enjoying a romantic three day trip and erotic nights of fun, only to be unceromoniously dumped shortly after. It would be too cruel, after all that heavy bonding. This one may be a slow burner. Given time, the chemistry may develop on your side. (Or not, who knows. Me? I'm a notoriously slow starter, myself) But if you force yourself into a do or die situation such as this, it will kill your passion faster than an SUV kills RoadKill. It would be an over-commitment on your side, before you were ready. Deci Link to comment
Fudgie Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I don't think you know him well enough. I went on a trip VERY early into my relationship with my boyfriend, but I've known him for years prior. I am looking at this as a possible safety issue. 2 weeks knowing someone is just not enough time to go on a sleep-away trip on them. That puts you in a very vulnerable position. Even if you were going as friends and weren't going to be sharing a room, I would still say that it's not a very wise idea. Link to comment
Sirenia Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 IMHO I wouldn't go away on a trip until I had been together with a guy for at least 3 months. Link to comment
EssexMan Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I feel that he likes me more that I do him. I mentioned that I am considering moving away for work on the last date and he said right away: "Yeah, we can go. Nothing ties me to this city". I was thinking "woah, we???" So yes, I could potentially be trapped with him... That's very premature on a second date and I think that taken with the invitation to the trip, as well as your gut feeling that he likes you more than you like him, it indicates a guy who's decidedly over-eager to escalate things from exploratory dating to a full-blown relationship. That doesn't mean he's a bad guy, of course, and maybe he will grow on you. But I think that somehow you need to make it clear to him that you'd be more comfortable with things progressing slower. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted December 22, 2012 Share Posted December 22, 2012 I would not go away with someone this soon. Link to comment
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